We live in a society where it seems that this feeling is fwithout harm, children learn that crying is bad, because it is a girls’ thing and shows fragility, young people prefer one night adventures so as not to get hurt, adults have double relationships with people they don’t like. Older people live in solitude because they are perceived as an obstacle. It’s time to overcome the fear of feeling, where is our humanity?
It’s hard to see two people kissing in the street without being in a relationship thinking, “Do I like you?Without looking weird, crying without feeling guilt or shame. It seems that we live in the culture of ” I do not feel “because if We feel or talk about our feelings, we will be seen as fragile people, so instead of receiving a hug with empathy and affection, we suffer injuries.
“How many things do we lose for fear of losing?”
-Paulo Coelho-
Imagine walking through a forest and it’s already dark, suddenly you see a shadow and something moving, your brain alerts your body before identifying whether it’s an animal or just the wind, this way of reacting is due to our survival instinct. it is a small structure in the brain called amygdala, which treats scary experiences.
The amygdala is an emergency button that is activated in case of danger. UAM psychobiology doctor Luis Carretié argues that the system is able to activate the response before we realize the danger.
Two research published in 2010 in the journal Nature, conducted by the team of neurobiologist David J. Anderson, of the California Institute of Technology (CalTech), and Professor Andreas Lethi of the Friedrich Miescher Institute (IMF), have deciphered what they call it working?the circle of fear ?.
Studies have shown the existence of two types of cells in the amygdala that alternate to open and close the “doors” of fear. But Carretié argues that research should be viewed cautiously, as humans are influenced by other fear-related factors. For example, the prefrontal cortex also plays an important role because it puts the situation in context and makes the response less automatic, but more elaborate. .
“Cowardice ages us more than time, years only create wrinkles on the skin, but fear gives wrinkles in the soul.
Facundo Cabral-
If a person hurts us, whether it is a love, a boss or a family member, even with words that hurt, the amygdala’s response would be to respond actively, but the prefrontal cortex puts everything in context and makes us have moments of reflection, if possible before acting. On the other hand, it must be considered that fear is highly conditioned by experiences and can block feelings.
Sometimes, or several times, you have hurt yourself, but that does not mean that it will always be repeated, nor that we have to change the way we act, in the face of this situation, consider some ideas as a way of reflecting and removing the armor that covers our feelings.
The first and perhaps most complicated step in overcoming a fear is to recognize it. What’s happened in the past that scares us, what are we afraid of and why?A deep reflection on this topic will help us understand what is happening and have a realistic view of the problem.
We feel many things and sometimes keep those feelings deep within ourselves out of shame or fear, without realizing that by putting on this armor we are hurting ourselves. You may need help from others to talk about it or an expert, but the important thing is to know yourself and how you feel.
Dance, painting, writing and all artistic manifestations can help us express ourselves and express what we feel, bravely and without fear, the important thing is to seek an activity that we like and that stimulates our expression and our feelings.
“Feelings and emotions are the universal language to be honored. They are the true expression of who we are. “
-Judith Wright-