Let go of your pride and let me help you. I know that’s what you need now, an outstretched hand and a hug ready to comfort you, a few words of encouragement and listening without judgment, just help, don’t turn your back on me, don’t reject the relief I offer you. You.
How many times have you wanted to support a friend or family member and that hasn’t been possible?Sometimes it’s not because you don’t want to or because the other person didn’t ask you to, it just acts in a way that contradicts what they say. He really needs to. Maybe it’s because he’s confident he can get out of trouble, or maybe he’s surrounded by a sense of shame.
- You’ve probably already needed to ask for help.
- So he called without hesitation to this friend who knows him so much or his brother who.
- You know.
- Will give you the best advice.
- You did convinced that they could shed some light on your situation.
- Unfortunately.
- Not everything went as I thought.
Something didn’t work out in the whole process. Our attitude contradicts what we were looking for, the person in front of us, the one who was so willing to help us, found himself powerless to do so, without realizing it you were implementing certain mechanisms that prevented that help from coming to you.
For starters, you stopped listening when you heard something you didn’t like, anyone resents realizing that they’ve made a mistake, which can be somebody’s fault and not someone else’s fault. It was our choice is a reality that we do not want to recognize, that is why you have closed your eyes and also the doors of help that have given you.
But it didn’t stop there, were you really bad? He reviewed emotions and needs to constantly download to think about the relevance of his words. It helped, but you didn’t let the other person express their opinion, give you advice, or open your eyes to what you weren’t. aware of.
And what about that moment when you disappeared, you made your distress call and suddenly it seems to have ceased to exist, his friends, his family, eager to help him, everyone was afraid not to know what to do, it wasn’t fair to do that. The help you asked for was right in front of you.
We often avoid asking for help or disturbing others with our problems so as not to steal the time we think we can invest in something more productive, but put yourself in their place. Isn’t it true that when you want a friend or brother, you’d like to be there to help?
People who love you will be by your side in the good and the bad, not sharing the most negative circumstances with them will prevent them from experiencing a completely natural and real part of you, do not hide. With them, you don’t have to worry too much about that feeling of shame that you realize inside you.
It is true that society has too much influence on this aspect, we usually cry inside the house and smile outside, the pain, the sadness, all this is kept in us, the positive is shown, the negative is hidden. It is repeatedly heard that “dirty laundry is washed at home”; now not even at home, just inside us.
This makes us people who carry enormous weights without even resting, by silencing your suffering you are moving away from the people who would support you, who would feel identified, which you can help by telling your own story, because we all have very bad times, when a good embrace frightens all evils.
We are strong, life and experiences make us more resilient, however, despite this, there will be many occasions when it will be positive to let them help us, when you do, you will find that overcoming a crisis with help strengthens ties and wears down less Besides, you will discover the great people who were with you and did not appreciate enough.
Images courtesy of Catrin Welz-Stein.