I’m tired of pleasing others. I must admit that for a long time I have believed that pleasing others is one of the most important things in life, today I no longer believe in that, and although it is important, I do not want to worry about it anymore.
I realized that I am a complete person, I used to be afraid of being rejected and I did not accept the idea that someone did not like me, this saturated my mind completely. I got to the point where there was no room for me.
- I thought walking in life doing what I wanted was synonymous with being free.
- Today I realized there was something more important than that: not doing anything you didn’t want to do.
When you’re able to deny someone something, you abandon the wishes of others, whether it’s your boss, friend or family member, at some point you’ll feel like you’re doing something that doesn’t work for you.
Anyone who says that gratitude is worth any sacrifice has not yet realized that pleasing others is a very heavy burden. I’ve learned to say no, that means freedom.
Today, I live my life exactly the way I want it. This often means, for example, that I stay home or go out with people much less than I thought necessary.
The pleasure of others prevents you from being independent and autonomous. In the end, you end up doing what others want because you think they’re more right than you. Maybe they are, but how can we learn and mature if we don’t do our thing?Decisions?
How to live, what to do, what to feel, where to be?are so basic and so important at the same time. Understand that the only thing that can govern your life is that you open an infinite number of doors.
Some people told me I’d become more selfish. Actually, I stayed a little, but I don’t care. Many can say it’s bad, but it’s not. That’s because even if I live in such a way that my values The people I love can sometimes get hurt, but it’s only because I’m not up to expectations and can’t live up to the life they’ve defined for me.
I don’t care so much because I know who cares about me wants what’s best for me. Others can just get out of my life. If they didn’t want what was best for me, they probably shouldn’t even be with me.
When I got tired of pleasing others, I learned that there were a lot of people willing to help, some people were always by my side, others only when I asked them, that doesn’t mean it means more to some people than to others. .
The thing is, everyone has their own life and sometimes they can’t pay as much attention to me. I’ve learned that real friends are here anyway. When they need you, they say. When you need them, they come.
I used to think no one would support me, but I realized that this idea came from my insecurity, not that it’s perfect today, but I’ve learned to love myself more and trust how I feel.
When I stopped pleasing others, I also turned away from relationships that were destructive to me, from those who hurt us with intentional words, or who are never by our side when we need them, these people have put me in danger, and I don’t. I love you more.
Today I decided to surround myself with my true friends, I discovered that they are much less than I thought, but I have exactly the ones I need, I am no longer willing to tolerate anything just to be accepted. say goodbye to even a part of my family. Of course, this point is more complicated, but if there were things that didn’t do me any good, I set a limit and now there’s more!
Are people walking around afraid they won’t please everyone?Do you live your life as intensely as you like or live the life you were told to live?If you still want to please everyone, I invite you to try to live alone for a while.
Give yourself a month’s freedom. Stay away from what you don’t like, leave what’s comfortable for you, stop following instructions and live for yourself, you’ll discover a feeling of fullness and never want to leave it again.