There is no need to try to determine everything, to want everything to happen in a concrete way, when we try to stop things and control them, they never go the way we want and that drowns us in frustration. Imposing prevents us from falling into the terrible abyss of difficulties and psychological problems.
Most people live in a kind of automation, as if we had an always-on button that forces us to live without thinking, without thinking; simply do what we feel at all times, without considering possible alternatives. This button, which we have in power mode, prevents us from seeing the essence of the facts. What’s happening to us is already very polluted by the way we see the world. .
- However.
- When we do not merge with our thoughts and feelings.
- We lose the experience of living and feeling our lives.
Reflecting on why we do things, why we behave in a certain way, opens a door to why we behave. When the focus of our attention remains bright in the past or in the future, we are caught between guilt and worry, leaving the moment present. This situation leads to a narrowing of our thoughts, emotions and behaviors.
Moreover, the lack of contact with this also makes it more likely that we will behave ineffectively. Extreme behavioral regulation decreases contact with current circumstances, which can be helpful in shaping and guiding our behavior.
Our attitude contains the secret of happiness. Depending on this, we can enjoy being alive or, on the contrary, suffering and enslaving ourselves to suffering.
For each situation, you must make a decision. However, if we still have the autopilot on, everything will be the same for us, no matter what happens in the outside world, we’ll be like a hammer that sees the nails and avoids everything else.
Our brain likes to play with us and makes us believe that everything it contains is the truth and what should be, however, reality will be what it should be, not what we want it to be, we cannot live alone with what nice, we must live with everything. That, of course, includes what we don’t want to happen to us.
“I was a lucky man; in life, nothing was easy for me. -Sigmund Freud-
In addition, according to psychology experts, life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we deal with it, so it’s time to face more and take better responsibility for what’s happening to us.
“I want everything to go the way I want it to, until everything goes the way I want it to?-Anonymous-
When you understand that changing the superfluous doesn’t hurt, you have the freedom to be in all circumstances, it means going beyond our desires and automations, whether personal, social or family.
You are not just what you think. You are more than what your thoughts tell you, you are much more than a complex of beliefs about what things should be, much more than predetermined and illusory ideas, you are change, you are adaptable and the sooner you realize it, the sooner things they will turn out as they should.
There is nothing good or bad in the universe, everything is neutral and necessary, the problem arises when we fight and we conflict with situations and circumstances that are part of the evolutionary process of every human being, from now on we will acquire the habit of seeing neutral reality, without judging it.
Whether we see it right or wrong has nothing to do with the evolutionary process that we all have to go through, but with what we think of it, there is nothing more devastating and painful to desire every time the opposite happens. Harmful habit is one of the best things we can do for ourselves.
“The sage does not seek anything, nor be good, nor strong, docile, nor rebellious, neither contradictory nor coherent. You just want to be?-Anonymous-