I got tired of waiting for the trains that bear my name, I left behind the platform of lost illusions and dreams that never come, because now I am the one who makes the movement, I who create the path. So, whoever wants to can do this voyage of discovery with me, but whoever doesn’t want to can also get off at the next station.
To assume this simple but courageous attitude would certainly be a great step towards personal growth and emotional well-being, however, we must recognize: if there is one thing we are used to is to wait, and more, to feed this expectation with the filigree of desired dreams with a perfection sometimes unattainable.
“You have to create the opportunity and not wait for it to come. -Francis Bacon-
Sometimes, and this is important to understand, it is society itself that, with its tentacles, filters and funnels, leads us to this antechamber where we only wait. The complex professional world and its sophisticated secrets force us to postpone many things, whether we feel compelled to have a new title, a new skill, a contract or a “more dignified contract”, to allow changes and desires to occur. Movement in which life is involved.
However, despite the current socio-economic context that makes us captive in these endless waiting rooms, what nothing and no one can take away from us is our own attitude, the movement is in us. Therefore, it does not matter that at first glance all trains go against the current, because anyone who needs to know their way, their dreams and their ideas is obliged not to wait, never to stop.
There are many realities by which a person can have the clear feeling that someone has put them on suspense. Being unrelated, being out of work, failing in a personal project or being rejected professionally or emotionally are certainly examples that transcend us more intimate and deeper corners of our being, until we immobilize ourselves.
However, it is necessary to understand that life never stops; grows, germinates, gives and always vibrates; However, it was we who stop, our spirit, our will and our own motivation. Bernice Neugarten was one of the first psychologists to study adult development and the complex moments of our life cycle when people have a clear perception that their reality has stopped, frozen in a sad, apathetic and boring frame of gaze.
Neurgarten established the theory of “waiting life”. (Expect life) as a transition that we must know how to face. The biggest problem is that we often have a very ambiguous, uncertain or even pessimistic vision of the future. Thoughts like “My train has passed, won’t I find the ideal partner?” Or “obviously I won’t get a good job” define a style of thinking that will further stop this waiting stage, making the transition to something better difficult.
We live in the world of ‘come back tomorrow’, ‘come back for you later?And’when you get it, you’ll have such a thing. ‘ We inhabit the times of eternal expectation by asking ourselves whether this theme of happiness is a fraud or a prize we earn when we get the necessary points. Trains pass, opportunities come and go, but none seem to bear our name. How to survive in the medio. de this scenario of uncertainty?where crises sometimes don’t seem to have an expiration date?
? Learn from yesterday, live today, wait for tomorrow. The important thing is to keep questioning things. -Albert Einstein-
Here are some simple tips to consider
The first tip is simple: we need to know our own goal, our point on the horizon, however, it is better to have a clear and realistic goal, depending on our possibilities, but without underestimating our potential.
In conclusion, someone once said that life is not just about cheating death, it’s about enjoying our existence every day, not just breathing and letting things happen on their own. Let us be the engine of our own growth, let us be active, hopeful, realistic. but optimistic beings, possessing this incredible force capable of giving the world wonderful things and, in turn, generating the happiness we truly deserve.