I write to you because I miss you, because you left me a farewell message, I write because I don’t know if you’ve ever loved me, because I need paper words to tell me how I feel. I’m writing because I have no other way to kiss you right now.
Writing what we think is talking about how we feel. This helps us reflect on many of the facts that make us suffer and find a cure. Love is one of those facts that brings us a lot of sadness and joy.
“All things must be said in due time, otherwise they will remain chained to us forever. “
-Haruki Murakani-
They say it takes six months to a year to get over a breakup, the end of a romance, but in fact, I always want to kiss her, because there are people who are hard to forget, in those cases what we have to do. It’s using all our emotional weapons to overcome sadness, one of which is writing.
As Walter Riso says in his “Practical Guide to Not Suffering for Love,” “Not every love is bad and not all love is lasting. “In fact, a pause is often liberating. Uncertainty about each other’s love is far worse than the certainty of lack of love.
As we grow and become adults, we learn what we want and what we don’t want from love, yet a pause is a pause and often leaves invisible marks, in these cases it’s time to use our emotional intelligence.
“I’ll say how I feel and talk about myself to the last page, and I won’t apologize. “
-Elisabeth Smart-
Emotional intelligence, a concept created by Daniel Goleman in the 1990s, is our ability to effectively and productively identify, understand, express and regulate our emotions and those of others.
Writing is a means of achieving this identification and understanding, writing by hand, letting it move, and displaying with words each of our feelings, knowing that no one will judge us, can help us heal wounds.
Psychosomatic medicine? A few years ago a study by psychologist Elisabeth Broadbent entitled “Expressive Writing and Healing in the Elderly” was published. In this study, he claims that writing functions as a healer for a person’s sad stories or deep feelings.
The experiment was conducted with 49 participants between the age of 64 and 97, who underwent a biopsy that left a wound on their arms. They were asked to write twenty minutes a day and every four or five days their wound was photographed until it healed completely.
Half of people wrote about their traumatic experiences and emotions and the other half wrote about their daily lives without mentioning their feelings. After eleven days, 76% of the first group had the wound healed compared to 42% of the second group.
The reason for this finding, according to this study, is that “stress and depression are associated with slower wound healing. “(?) “So far, only how to reduce stress in older people through exercise has been studied” (?). ? A viable alternative may be expressive writing, which is brief, easy to manage and inexpensive.
When it comes to love, there is an invisible wound that hurts your heart, and that pain can be relieved by writing, so it’s recommended to let it go, write without thinking, and let words flow from your brain to paper, gradually letting go. your sadness.
I’m writing to tell you that I love you and that I’ll never forget you, to kiss you because I can’t get close to your lips anymore. I write because there are two plates and two glasses on the table and their smell permeates my sheets. I write because as I write every word, I shed a tear that dilutes the ink, but also its memory.
“Writing is my way of clapping and embracing, why write if not to assemble the pieces?
-Eduardo Galeano-