If child bullying and difficulties in being accepted in adolescence were not enough, over time we realized that throughout our lives we will find people and situations with high potential and desire to humiliate us. Always be subjected to this unpleasant situation. Unfortunately, this is part of the society in which we live.
The harshness with which some people have been treated in their own lives perpetuates themselves if they do not work emotionally the trauma and coldness suffered during certain experiences, we must look at them with compassion, so as not to let ourselves be the target. of his humiliations. Only then will the chain break.
Being humiliated is never good, but we can still learn from it
It’s because what’s behind this person’s story to make him feel good about doing this?When we manage to analyze the situation in this way, we leave the experience with much more than an unpleasant feeling, but with lessons of how the human being recreates through himself what he has experienced AND paying attention to this fact is what allows us to do and be different.
In my experience as a foreigner, for example, I realized that I could be humiliated for not belonging to a race, even if I had the same ancestry in me. Once, during a job interview, an Englishman wanted to tell me he would. He didn’t hire me because my English had a German accent and vice versa, but the tone and expression with which he gave me this information clearly showed that he wanted to be superior, and as incredible as it may seem, there were people who tried to belittle me. because he was a writer. Or even for not having a more desirable purchasing power.
I understood that everything we are or what we have can be an argument of humiliation to understand others if they feel willing to do so, even if it is something positive, a quality or a talent, which stands out for one type of person is the desire to be superior and the attitude of trying to downgrade the other.
As beautiful as a person is, that same person can be humiliated by his appearance, or by both knowledge and you, someone may be diminished by a single detail that he has not shown to know in depth. Someone who has money can be humiliated because he has no class, et cetera.
What I mean is that no matter how much you have or how many you are, everyone who wants to humiliate will always find the means to do so, and we live in a society where this behavior and desire are shared by a large number of people.
What changes is the way you react in times of humiliation. He understands that the problem is not really mine but of the other person. There is a big difference between constructive criticism and humiliation. Anyone who wants to teach something will also know how to lead. Those who intend to show their superiority will show their negative intentions in their eyes, in the voice and on the face, albeit naturally.
There is no way to escape or escape humiliating moments in life, but once we understand who we really are, our flaws and our qualities, we also come to understand how much the other can affect us with their destructive opinions.
The humiliation of the other becomes an extreme lesson of tolerance, patience and strength, when one does not let one himself be attained, let us grow up in the face of something bad and do not continue with what hurts.
Understanding this, my silence becomes the goodness that the humiliator did not have, it is quite possible that he will never recognize the fact, but life brings back what we generate.
And not reacting to something bad is to generate something good for you in the first place and then for the whole society that you need so much.