There are certain moments in life when some people only seek to create discord, in this uncomfortable situation it is best to use silence, get away from discomfort and relax.
Many times those who annoy us try to annoy us and make us angry, however, it is better not to stoke this situation and create a huge bubble of calm, it is not easy to do, but it is possible and, above all, very beneficial.
- We all have certain strategies that they use.
- More or less effective.
- In these types of situations.
- However.
- It is always important to have a broad anti-stress background that allows us to create divine temples of silence and calm in complicated situations.
There is a lot of talk about how to educate our children to relax, but often adult recommendations appear in their absence, so it is assumed that we are experts in this and that if we do not control ourselves against those who seek to create discord, it is because we do not want it.
There’s nothing wrong with that. We need to re-educate ourselves to control our emotions and manage these moments and what they provoke, so we can give small brushstrokes on how to work with our emotions:
When we talk about using silence does not mean that we must be passive in the face of those who disturb us, in fact, the key is to assert ourselves to face the situation, for this it is essential to start relaxing, because with an altered emotional state, we are probably not able to express our feelings with precision and moderation, because anger will dominate us.
Because we are solely responsible for how we act and how we feel, let’s review a brief story to understand that only what we let affects us will affect us:
Joo walked with his father to the stall where he bought the newspaper every day. When they arrived, they greeted the owner kindly, who was in a bad mood like him every day.
He answered them quickly and dismissively. Joo’s father, while picking up the newspaper the other had thrown at him against his will, smiled at him and wished him a good weekend. When the two resumed their journey, the boy asked his father:
? Does he still treat you so badly?
? Unfortunately, yes.
? And you always get so nice?
? Yes, exactly
And why are you so kind when he’s so mean to you?
? Why don’t I want him to decide how to act.
The fully human person is the one who can be himself, he is an actor in his own life, not a re-actor in the face of what others say or do, acts on your own beliefs and not as a reaction to how you act. or what others expect.
Feeding our ability to express our own will without regret is very important to be able to communicate calmly and distance ourselves to analyze the intentions of these discordant people.
Being able to stand up and put a wall of silence between ourselves and the bad attitudes of others is a costly learning, but it will undoubtedly pay the long-term fruits we need: affirming our own will to improve our own self-esteem, determination and self-love. .
Why, as they say, moving away from the conflicting improves health and soul?