Today we are talking about a new way of understanding relationships: it is you, me and, of course, our relationship, in this sense much of society maintains an idyllic view of the norms and dynamics that a relationship must maintain. , at the same time, is a source of disappointment and frustration.
There are many people who make connections based on ideas that will then end them. For example, they may think that the couple should work out of sheer love, when inertia really helps, but this is not a sufficient condition for a couple to survive.
- Thus.
- By addressing this issue from the perspective of three different entities that play the “love game”.
- We can work on the aspects that will make a relationship work.
- There are two people who love each other and a relationship.
- And each of the components is important So.
- In love.
- 1 1 is 3: you.
- Me and our relationship.
In the relationship, three different entities are involved in the game of love.
In this understanding of the relationship, three dimensions should be analyzed separately:
This partner has its own complexities. AsÃ, es importante llegar a buenos niveles de acuerdo en el reparto de responsabilidades y la comunicación fluida, es un compromiso que ambos deben adquirir, pero que muchas parejas ignoran, pensando que se van a sacar estas cosas por amor. relationships over time and brings us more problems than solutions.
This third entity or space also needs time and affection, that is where the levels of affection, communication, consensus, problem solving, sexual desire, etc. , in short, everything that brings balance and stability to the relationship are cultivated.
It is convenient to spend time on topics such as: how you get an income and how you spend your money, or what we do in our free time, what we like to do together and what we like to do alone. care (and how do you treat) relationships with families of origin, what limits do we impose on them?Who are mutual friends and who are each other’s exclusive friends, and what is the balance in this relationship.
There are four very common habits that can be inherited by learning to resolve conflict resolution, but none solve anything, at best they only steal energy. It’s criticism, defensive attitude, contempt and not letting the other talk.
Besides all this? From the relationship, there are certain attitudes that need to be reviewed when we are in a relationship so that we can act on them if they occur. It also serves to understand the damage they do to the third member of the relationship. the relationship.
This innovative concept of a couple composed of these three interdependent entities is used in therapy with great success, however, it is not necessary to have problems in the relationship to use it, a successful couple can rely on this perspective from the beginning of the relationship.
During a commitment, if we understand and care for this concept of a third entity, it will be much easier to understand where the relationship is, allow yourself to identify where the weaknesses are and take steps to correct them. We can also identify their strengths: that must be explored so that the couple can increase the level of well-being of all three.