For a long time, men and women have nurtured sexual fantasies only in the imagination, either because they have limiting beliefs or because they fear the opinions of others, but today people live sexuality in a much more liberal way, which has allowed us to the fullest. erotic dreams to become reality.
Imagination plays a very important role in any sexual encounter and in sexuality understood as something much greater, because sexuality can be a look with all intent, a whispered word in the ear, an occasional affection or a simple kiss on the cheek.
- English psychotherapist Brett Kahr defines sexual fantasies as:?A conscious thought or set of thoughts that includes the representation of one or more sexual acts.
- One or more sexual scenes.
- Sexual images and often sexual language.
- All in many cases produce pleasant sensations ranging from mental pleasure to physical stimulation of the genitals ?.
However, for Freud, people who have sexual fantasies show a lack of sexual satisfaction, as they manifest a frustrated desire that is tempted to compensate with fantasies and imagination.
Women and men, once freed from our prejudices, dare to turn our dreams into reality, our most hidden desires, but what do women and men imagine to get excited?, what sexual fantasies do we all have?
In general, women have three types of sexual fantasies: group sex, either with two men or with a man and a woman; Sexual intercourse with strangers and exchange of partners, also called swing.
On the other hand, men generally imagine group sex, especially with various women, female domination, slavery and sex in public places.
Several studies have shown that when erotic fantasies increase also increase erotic feelings, it is about imagining everything that could be considered forbidden and transgressive, fantasies can not only become reality, but we can also imagine when we are with our partner as a way to play and enjoy.
Imagination in sex is essential, both alone and in company, imagining sex with strangers, new positions, using sex toys, imagining sex with a friend’s partner, having sex on a deserted beach or in a public place are just some of the fantasies we can realize. we need to stimulate ourselves and achieve a more pleasurable sexuality, here are some tips so you can stimulate your imagination and that of your partner and enjoy a different sex:
There are many films that are not pornographic, but that have a high erotic content that can stimulate our imagination more than an explicit sex film would.
If you’re going to see one with your partner, their fantasy will start to emerge and, little by little, you’ll start to imagine what it would be like to achieve between the two of you what you see in the movie Dare to experiment?
Imagine going to a sexy lingerie store with your partner, choosing something they both like and thinking about what would be a sexual encounter with this sexy lingerie, those garters, those stockings.
Do you play with your imagination and that of your partner, with the places where you can have sex with this lingerie, with people who can look at you?
One of the biggest failures of couples is that they get used to certain positions because they already know what the other likes, but it’s about innovating, laughing, unwrapping and experimenting.
Experiment with positions that you have not yet experienced, that encourage you to think about what a sexual relationship with your partner would be like in this position. Lose the shame and enjoy it.