In realms where lying overlaps with soft hypocrisy, sincerity is always the biggest misunderstanding, everything happens as if communicating with transparency is a crime, an audacity for those who take off their armor and, with education and respect, can move forward with the heart and truth in their mouths.
It’s not easy. Today, many sociologists and analysts define much of the population as passive entities, as mere witnesses to what is happening in this world; hypocrisy reigns in many of our political spheres, in certain work environments, and even in the privacy of some of our homes. without us doing anything to react.
- There are those who choose silence and that supposed passivity for simple and absolute tiredness.
- Why do we already know? This family member.
- Boss or colleague.
- We know that there are many who advocate equality.
- But who secretly despise that others have the same rights.
- Like him.
- The same opportunities.
Without fear of mistake, one could say that there is a much cruder, darker and hairy dimension than the lie itself: hypocrisy, which is nothing more or less than a very enigmatic lack of honesty, where the person hides his own personality while deploying an impeccable moral nobility.
As you’re sure to know more than one person with these characteristics, we suggest delving into the topic to have more strategies to act on them.
As children, adults teach us that truth is good and lying is a habit that is better not to acquire, they show us a practice whose sooner or later we discover sinuous corners and refined nuances, as Lawrence Kohlberg explains in his theory. of moral development, it is in the second stage, in the so-called “conventional morality”, that the child between the age of 10 and 13 develops an awareness of the meaning of justice, also discovering how adults can fall into their own contradictions.
They demand sincerity from us, but many are offended if we tell the truth. Gradually we come to situations where we wonder what may be better: sincerely offending or lying for simple education. Sooner or later we assume that hypocrisy reigns and reigns, and that a false coexistence is built with it; a coexistence that presents glorious moral principles and beautiful ideologies under which cowardice or mere carefreeness for others is often hidden.
Hypocrisy is fully institutionalized in our society, we have already normalized it, however and here is a curious fact, most of us have an always up-to-date radar that knows how to detect it, we see hypocrisy in our politicians, in some of our family members or colleagues, and yet we do not respond. In a way, we are aware that this is an almost lost battle: it is a difficult task to switch to those who are not sincere or even with themselves.
There are several types of hypocrisy. There are those who present great attributes to hide dark moral principles: racism, machismo, a backward mind. However, the kind of lie that most abounds is that of the person seeking to fit in, be accepted and even praised. Therefore, you will not hesitate to defend today the violet color and tomorrow the green, then the blue, depending on the environment in which it is located.
Letting ourselves be guided at all times by the opinions of others undermines our self-esteem and prevents us from practicing, for example, the self-assessment that we must always live according to our own values, without pleasing others.
Now let us see how we must act before these people accustomed to living in the realm of hypocrisy.
We can’t beat hypocrisy, but we can deal with it. As we said before, switching to the hypocrite is a lost battle, but what we can do is set an example, be authentic, and disable the influence they may have on us.
Always have an internal dialogue with yourself to remember who you are, what your values are, and what your greatness is, what the hypocrite says, does, or thinks is no good and no matter what it is for his life, it’s just air, just the breath of a cowardly puppet who turned lying into his kingdom of cards.
Sooner or later, the castle will fall.