Human beings seek meaning in things and always want to find a ‘why’, in many circumstances this analysis we do so taking into account the situation of the people around us, we feed on the stories of others, struggling to find a minimum of similarity that makes us realize what is happening to us as something less strange.
In some psychotics, for example, the “delirant atmosphere” appears, a perception that the world has changed and is sinister to them. The line separating what we call normality from what is considered strange is very thin and fades easily.
- Therefore.
- It makes sense for us to seek not only the stories around us.
- But also solutions to our dilemmas in currents of thought or in certain social groups.
- Strive to answer our questions.
- Seek solutions to our dilemmas.
- And find points.
- That match other stories.
We cannot find the answer to who we are in others, everything that happens in our life has a certain form and meaning, precisely because it happens to us and not to others, that has already been analyzed by Ortega y Gasset in his beautiful book ? Don Quixote Meditations? From 1914, referring to the concept of circumstance (what surrounds us and its relationship with our body and mind).
We come into this world with a concrete body and a historical context, and everything interacts with our context so that we can be the version that we like the most, the one that is in our unconscious, the one that leads us to choose certain things and not others.
“I am me and my situation, do I take less care of me?
-Ortega and Gasset-
If we all had the same personal characteristics and circumstances, perhaps there would be fewer injustices, but also fewer stories, which are reflected in the books that make us dream and reflect generation after generation. That’s why I have my landscape and my circumstances and the way I understand, appreciate or face them is what’s going to shape my life.
There are certainly clear answers to some things, a sum, a subtraction or the fact that the Earth revolves around the Sun are explanations that seem to convince everyone, however, finding meaningful answers for everyone about their life and personal decision-making is much more. absurd and dangerous that logical and kind.
Circumstances create unique stories, not universal answers
The human being is composed of stories in his encounter with the world, what one person has lived in relation to what the other has lived may be like form, but not the background and meaning that this fact marked for each of them.
Getting a college degree for some can represent an event full of freedom and satisfaction, and for others it is very uncomfortable because of the indecision and melancholy that comes with it. We realize that the only thing in common and clear to all is to try to feel good, but to feel good for each of us takes on different meanings.
That’s why there are no answers, just stories. There are only a few clues along the way we can find, but is that it?Sometimes we’ll make it, sometimes we’re wrong, and sometimes we’ll betray our own inner desires to please others.
So stop analyzing your life by referencing what happened to others, how much that person’s life made that decision, or that one, every time you do, you give up your own individuality, your own criteria, and even a small revolution just because it was you.
To analyze all cases by imposing the same criterion is to ignore the circumstances of each one, and this has an immediate consequence for society: the lack of empathy and the hypothesis of a unique thought model that unifies our thoughts and afflicts our lives.
Fighting injustices and lack of opportunity is a social duty that will often be implicit in the way you solve your adverse circumstances: sometimes you just have to be yourself, whatever your circumstances, to change something in the world.