Internal disconnection is a defense mechanism used by many people, it is to choose not to feel so as not to suffer, is it?Heart to protect the soul from new failures, new disappointments and wounds that do not heal, however, with this strategy, we can only move away from healthy participation in life.
Take a moment to analyze the purpose of our emotions, every time they are activated in the brain trigger reactions throughout our body, disgust, for example, prevents us from something or someone, love, enthusiasm, affection or passion connect us and inject us with a lot of dynamics with which we are more energetic and creative than ever.
“Not loving for fear of suffering is like not living for fear of dying. “Ernesto Mallo?
However, it is completely wrong to think that negative emotions have no purpose or that their sole purpose is to bring us unhappiness, in fact, they are the ones that allow the human being to adapt, learn and progress throughout their evolution and life cycle. or anxiety are survival mechanisms, warning signs that need to be interpreted to translate them into adaptive responses that guarantee our integrity.
From neuroscience, and through interesting books such as “A New Vision of Pain as a Principle of Homeostatic Emotion,” we come to a very revealing explanation: modern man is very afraid. Despite the lack of external predators or specific physical risks, fear of this modern world is much deeper and more complicated.
We talk about internal fears, those personal demons that paralyze us, take our breath away and certainly have multiple origins, and given our inability to manage these fears, we often choose to use emotional disconnection syndrome.
Let’s think about this concept, which may be well known to you
Let’s imagine for a moment a fictional character named Miguel. This young man has an emotional past marked by many failures. His level of disappointment is so deep that he has begun a new stage in his life where he has minimized the level of emotional involvement; no longer wants to suffer or experience any more disappointments, no more disappointments.
His defense mechanisms to achieve this goal are very attentive: he initiated a complex dissociation between thoughts and emotions to the point of “intellectualizing” it. It’s all done. In this way, it protects your emotional isolation with thoughts like this: “I’m happy alone, I think love is a waste of time and something that interferes with my professional future. “
Miguel developed what is called internal disconnection syndrome to forget the disappointments of the past, making sure that they do not happen again, however, this behavior will not help you at all: besides isolating yourself and not participating in life in a healthy way, our protagonist sinks into the same emotional vacuum that wanted to protect himself.
If for Miguel to love is to suffer, closing the doors of love brings the same suffering to all areas of his life. Emotional disconnection is a relentless virus that gradually advances conquering several territories, because the person who lives it ceases to record love and affection internally as something significant in life.
Gradually, frustration, bitterness, relentless moodiness and emotional distress settled down and, sooner or later, resulted in physical pain, insomnia and various diseases such as depression.
We talked at the beginning of the article about the weight of negative emotions in our lives: we define them as survival mechanisms, however, as we can see in the example above, many of us, instead of trying to understand them, anchor them our mental boats to immerse them in the void of indifference; Forget.
“If you hadn’t suffered, you wouldn’t have depth as a human being, humility, or compassion. “Eckhart Tolle?
There is no point in choosing not to feel or suffer, it makes no sense because the human being, no matter what they tell us, is not a rational body or a computer, the human being is a set of fabulous emotions that guide him and give him life. connect with each other, learn from disappointments, mourn losses, laugh with joy and get ahead to overcome these dangers with which we always learn a lesson.
Neuroscience tells us that the internal disconnect resulting from a set of negative emotions is neither useful nor healthy. Negative emotions, such as fear or pain, have a purpose and shape what scientists define as a “homeostatic impulse. “Humans were designed to act, not be isolated in their islets of dissatisfaction.
When our inner balance is altered, it is a good idea to gain strength, to be creative and courageous to recover this inner homeostasis; In this way we will achieve emotional fullness or that perfect place where nothing hurts and nothing is missing. You allow yourself to feel again to connect with yourself first, then dare to connect with the people around you.
In conclusion, our brain is a wonderful social and emotional entity that needs others to be well, at peace and to have the necessary balance, so let’s take care of our emotions.