Each interview with Rafael Santandreu is an exercise in learning and discovery, in his latest book he offers us a practical manual of personal transformation and autotherapy, a very complex and original work to acquire valuable strategies based on cognitive psychology.
He is the author of renowned books, such as The Art of Non-Bitter Life and The Glasses of Happiness, Santandreu emphasizes, with his ability to make us understand the origin of our dissatisfhensions in life, our happiness and the way we shape our thoughts. Reality.
- We are what we think.
- And the quality of everything that happens in our minds will stimulate happiness and our potential as human beings.
In our interview with Rafael Santandreu, we delve into the importance of understanding how we interpret the things that happen to us, including the most unfavorable ones.
As a psychologist, trainer, announcer and therapist specializing in strategic short therapy, Rafael Santandreu is a reference figure who invites us to question ourselves.
Through it, we have created terms like terribilite and needilite, ideas that force us to look inwards to understand how we can limit our human potential.
Santandreu also presents us with interesting philosophical approaches to show us how the basis of happiness and positive psychology also feeds on our classics.
The approach he proposes responds, once again, to what we are used to: an original and innovative lesson that allows us to grow, is the awakening of our inner joy, a journey that is undoubtedly always worth making. .
“Stronger and happier people resort to careful, intelligent and above all conscious internal dialogue. “Rafael Santandreu-
Notice that Epithet, the philosopher of the first century, said, “What happens to us does not affect us, but the way we talk about what is happening. “
This means you’re not depressed because your girlfriend left you; you’re depressed because you’re thinking, “I’m alone!I need my girlfriend again!”
In reality, most adversities tend to affect us very little, but when we engage in very negative internal dialogue, they cause us anxiety or depression.
Yes, they never “terrorize” them. That is, they consider that there are adversities in life and they are a little uncomfortable, but not so much as to impede happiness, they are convinced of that. But it’s clear that there are major difficulties, such as having cancer or losing a family member.
One of my models of emotional strength was Stephen Hawking, the wheelchair scientist. He could not move at all because of his paralysis, nor could he speak, but he said (through his computer) that his illness was just a detail.
He thought that as long as he could do precious things for himself and others, he could be happy, and thus became one of the most important scientists of all time. Above all, he was a very happy person.
We assure you that if you acquire the personal philosophy of people like Stephen Hawking, your emotional world will change: you will no longer be affected by small adversity and you will have plenty of mental space to enjoy life. It’s about internal dialogue, your beliefs about life.
One of the fundamental principles is to fight against what is ‘necessary’, the belief that many things are needed to be well. The truth is that we only need water and food on a day-to-day life.
Everything else is incidental and indispensable: having a relationship, a job, for example, is not important for happiness, the main thing is not to complain and appreciate what you have.
Of course! Health is the first thing we lose as we age. Holding on to health is absurd. I assure you, we can be happy even with a serious illness.
You have the example of Stephen Hawking and many others. Again, what matters is what you tell yourself: whether or not you are terrified.
Many people are depressed by the death of a loved one, but I guarantee that this depression is the product of their internal dialogue on death.
I think death is good and even beautiful, for what?Because natural events are good and necessary, my death and that of my living beings is a charity event.
The important thing is not to live a long or short life, but to have a good life, however, people are depressed because they no longer have the person to love them, but the world is full of wonderful people to love. Are they your brothers?
Love them as you loved important people in your life who are no longer alive, showed you the way and you can replicate it in other fantastic people who inhabit this planet.
Yes, my books, for example, are a collection of philosophical principles that will convince you that you can be happy in any adversity. You’ll find many arguments that together will lead you to say, “There’s nothing that can make me unhappy!”
Exactly: a slave was born! His parents were gone and sold it at birth; his master, Epafrodito, took him to Rome; Despite this, I was happy; he said to himself, “As long as you can do precious things for me and others, I will be happy. “
Like Stephen Hawking, there we can see that the secret of happiness is in your inner dialogue, if you control your dialogue every day, you will learn to be happy.
Yes, cognitive psychology will ask you to review what it says every day in the face of adversity.
For example, if you’re stuck in traffic, don’t say, “What’s going on?Go to hell!? Say :?Is everything okay?Can I do a thousand beautiful things to enjoy life at the time?, like singing a song, calling my mother and talking a little bit, etc.
Exact. La next time you’re in traffic, you’ll be surprised how it will affect you less. And do it with everything.
Another example: if someone says something unpleasant, work so it doesn’t affect you:?I don’t need everyone to treat me well all the time; it doesn’t matter if someone insults me: it’s actually their problem, not mine?.
I’m simplifying because, in fact, we have to say a lot more arguments so that things don’t affect us, but that’s the dynamic.
In the first month of hard work in this review of internal dialogue, it is already possible to see very significant changes, after about 3 months the person feels 80% better.
Reaching 100% will take a little longer, it can take a year or two, but you have to work on it every day.
The result is that the person feels happier, doesn’t get a little stressed, risks doing many other things and enjoys the most beautiful things in life.