A simple touch, an exchange of glances or a phrase can irritate us depending on who is in front of us. Intolerance is a very common problem today, which leads us not to bear contact with other people. This can cause a lot of problems in our personal lives, relationships.
There is a very fine line between tolerance and lack of tolerance, it seems that we are less and less patient and kind to others, we find it very difficult to put ourselves in the shoes of others and understand that confrontation leads nowhere.
- We will assume that we are all intolerant or that we have been.
- Either for a bad day or because tolerance is not part of our values.
- It is very sad.
- But true.
- We will analyze everyday situations to verify our level of acceptance or denial in relation to others.
For example, if we walk down the street and someone hits us because they were looking at their cell phone, if we’re on the subway next to someone who’s practically sneezing in the face or in a restaurant where the person across the street eats. strong soup? All this can us off.
But there is even more: if a coworker at the office shuffles while walking or if a colleague walks with firm heels, if his partner or friend is distracted when you say something important to him or if at the cinema we sit next to from someone Who says filming it all the time? we smoke ears.
Why do these unimportant situations accentuate our intolerance?People who scream on the bus, talk with their mouths full of food or listen to music on the street without headphones shouldn’t be reason enough to us off.
If you’re generally angry with some of the examples described above, it’s time to think about the reason for your frustration. Have you noticed that when you get angry like that, you’re the one who suffers?You suffer twice: once because you’re offended and once because you have to deal with your own anger.
Think that you are not alone in this world (fortunately) and that everyone around you can do whatever they want, as long as it doesn’t hurt you.
Why is all this bothering you? The movie man is just trying to find a connection with someone who shares his passion for film; the young woman who sned on the subway did so unknowingly and untentionally to make him sick; The person who eats the soup aloud may have learned this way; the colleague wearing high heels thinks the noise she makes isn’t that loud.
People aren’t against you and they haven’t chosen to do it just to irritate or disturb your peace of mind. Are you angry because you think they do it on purpose, that they don’t respect the people around them, or that everyone agrees to make your day worse?Nothing further from the truth!
We all have our peculiarities, forms that can also annoy others and by which we ask people for understanding, what happens is that our fashions do not bother us.
Tolerance is not only respect for freedom of expression or religion, but also understanding the peculiarities of others without letting them angry us. Tolerance is self-control, patience and emotional education.
On the other hand, the fact that we live in an increasingly intolerant society, even if it does not issue flags in favor of diversity, does not necessarily mean that we must be irritated by the peculiarities of everyday life and the people around us. Sad, but the truth is, no one teaches us to be tolerant.
This under-practiced and trained skill is considered a weakness. Does this mean that if we preach tolerance, we will be called “weak” or “sumissive”?On the contrary, contempt, lack of understanding and thinking only of oneself are characteristics related to a good citizen.
It takes a lot of patience for the practice of intolerance to become a habit. Yes, just that patience we lack when someone commits one?Lack? Close to us.
So we suggest that the next time someone sits next to you on the subway even if there are many empty seats, even if they send you a message with lots of spelling errors or if they smoke next to you, count to 10 and don’t let anger take care of you.
With a calm mind, you’ll understand that people aren’t against you and don’t want to ruin your day, they just live their lives.