The bad news is, yes, being unattractive, it costs a little more to find a partner, the good news is that this little barrier, on the other hand, if you want and make a small effort, is also a preparation for the establishment. better quality relationships. It’s up to you.
Often, the kingdom of love admits a metaphor for the market: the law of supply and demand. In today’s love, he? The most demanded products are: the most attractive in sight and those who have money or recognition of people, although this issue is rarely discussed in these terms, because it is uncomfortable to strip love of one’s own romantic and innocent fantasy, in practice the truth. It is that love is influenced by a series of biological laws that build us as human beings that we are. Laws that favor some people and harm others.
- Those who collect these attributes are easier in the love market.
- There is no doubt.
- But being easier is not always better.
- Very often.
- This apparent ease gets in the way and.
- As a result.
- Difficulty eventually becomes a positive thing.
- Especially if we leave the realm of love and true love.
- Since then.
- As Ortega and Gasset have said?.
“The beauty you attract rarely coincides with the beauty that you fall in love with. -José Ortega y Gasset-
Physical attractiveness is an arbitrary attribute, since its definition depends more on the person who perceives it than on the person to which it is perceived, this depends not to a large extent on the effort of the person, but on different anatomical parameters related to the faces. on the other hand, each culture defines – or has a great influence on definition – what is beautiful and what is not, so it functions as a tax factor.
It is also a condition that has no greater effect on society. The fact that people are or aren’t they?In fact, there is a much larger group of famous characters considered un appealing to the eyes than geniuses, thinkers or heroes who conform to current standards of beauty.
Nowadays there are people who are born beautiful and people who become beautiful, these days being attractive is something that can be bought, physically remodeling a person is a real possibility. This is done in operating rooms, gyms and thanks to thousands of products and procedures purchased in aesthetic centers.
On the other hand, however important it is for the evolution of society, people are often very concerned about the beauty of the image they exhibit; in fact, there are people who suffer anxiety about it, others who fall into depression and many others who strive to counteract the naturalness of their body to maintain or achieve a certain form, either through sport or food.
Physical attraction is something that, as the name suggests, attracts, gives an advantage and saves effort, is called an attraction because those who have it have a kind of magnet to capture the attention of others, and in this sense can facilitate the conquest of a potential suitor. In addition, a beautiful couple remains a sign of status, of value, especially in certain cultures, and more easily awakens erotic impulses. It is certainly a real obstacle for people who have not been so honest in this regard. .
If someone who is physically unattractive wants to improve their search or partner choice options, they can choose two options: one is to become a victim of this logic and the other is to subvert it. Anyone who agrees to fall victim to this situation ends up. pulling the towel and hiding behind a shield, so, in addition to being unattractive, they are more likely to end up developing interaction strategies that make it even less attractive, on the other hand, those who accept the challenge end up building a different logic in which, with their attitude, they manage to make them see and appreciate other kinds of characteristics that make them attractive.
One thing is certain: while physical attraction opens the door to conquest in an easier way, this factor does not facilitate the next path, takes advantage in the first steps, but ends there, this may even be an advantageous factor for the attractive person because the other features that appear may not live up to this attraction and end up disappointing the expectations of the other. In this sense, that person’s relationships sometimes end as easily as they began.
Physical attraction also ends up being a disadvantage for those who want to go beyond an occasional achievement. Beauty is an absolute value only in the minds of some teenagers who feed on serious complexes or who are very alienated.
Many messages are intended to make us believe that the world is made for beautiful, rich and powerful people, this message is driven by people who benefit financially from those who believe in this logic, demonstrating an almost infinite will to sacrifice to reach an extra. aim for beauty with an expensive cream or gym equipment.
Thus, there is no denying that being unreactive can be an obstacle to finding a partner, but it is not an obstacle to love and being loved, nor is it the only facet that makes us more attractive or unpleasant. There are other factors on which we have a much greater influence, such as our attitude or personality.
Images courtesy of Antonio Mora.