When you start a relationship and you are a romantic person, the idea of separating and not being together seems very difficult, there is already a mandatory separation during the day for professional reasons, to think that they will also sleep apart is an idea that may seem unbearable.
There is a popular belief that a couple sleeping separately has marital problems and, in some cases, it is true. When you’ve had an argument with your partner, the least you want is to have sex with the other person, not even touching you, even if some couples think so, which is a good way to solve problems.
- In fact.
- The habit of sleeping together in the same bed became popular in the industrial era.
- The lack of space in cities has led to the construction of smaller houses that would save space.
- In ancient Rome or ancient Greece.
- It was customary to have separate sleeping spaces and a separate room to organize sexual encounters.
Studies conducted by sleep professionals such as Dr. Stivill and Dr. Stanley of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine indicate that the best thing for your health is not only to sleep in separate beds, but also in separate rooms.
According to experts, half of couples who sleep together have trouble sleeping together, if your partner snores, moves a lot or gets up in the middle of the night, wakes up and interrupts your rest, this will cost you later, both physically and psychologically: sadness, mood swings, lack of concentration and even weight gain.
Sleeping in another room not only helps your comfort and rest, but also maintains your personal space, this even encourages sexual encounters with your partner, night separation promotes the existence of an erotic space in which you miss the other and therefore increases the need to be in the company of the other person.
A 2005 study by the National Sleep Foundation in the United States found that women have more difficulty sleeping or staying asleep due to circumstances associated with hormonal changes. Menstrual cycles, daily worries, stress or menopause sometimes cause you to wake up out of nowhere, move a bed and get a bad night’s sleep.
In an interview with Dr. Estivill in 2014, he said that between 40 and 50% of Spaniards had sleep problems due to stress, emotional breakdowns and had developed bad habits.
Having not only separate beds, but also separate rooms, is a good decision to maintain the relationship and help it develop. The mature and consensual decision to sleep apart is a way to respect each other, their intimacy, their space and their personal growth.
If you are a very romantic person and you are even afraid to think about spending the night alone, an intermediate solution may be to sleep in the same room with separate beds or also in the same bed but with single sheets. It’s a great way to sleep comfortably together, but your partner can still move around a lot and take up your bed space.
Many fights, separations and even divorces originate indirectly from a bad rest of one of the partners, not sleeping well affects your health, so you are more prone to pessimism, anxiety, fatigue, premature aging and lack of concentration.
Sleeping separately may seem un romantic, but it’s a conscious and mature decision of health and well-being, both personal and couple, at least that’s what science says. What do you think?