It’s very hard to forgive. We must send the message that our lives will continue despite what happened, to the person who has caused us pain and suffering, and that we will not waste our precious time thinking of someone who does not deserve our thoughts and tears.
Forgiveness has the power to free us from resentment, thirst for vengeance and hatred, from thoughts that, if fed, will cause pain and suffering to ourselves and the people around us.
- However.
- It is important not to confuse forgiveness with forgetfulness.
- If someone has hurt us physically or psychologically.
- As is the case with sexual abuse.
- We will not forget it because our mind is ready to facilitate learning through experience.
This wound will remain forever in our souls, but it is important that we learn to live with it and live a normal life, in spite of everything.
As we have explained before, forgiving is not wasting our time, our self and our lives, suffering for something we cannot change. What happened happened. Unfortunately, we do not have the ability to erase the painful facts of the past, but we have the power to build our present and our future.
Forgiveness is understanding that we have a lot of life ahead of us for new projects, meeting great people who bring us a lot of wisdom and well-being, falling in love, traveling, enjoying our free time?
And no one, absolutely no one, can cut off your wings and keep you from moving on unless you allow it yourself.
Forgiveness is thinking much more about the present and the future than in the past, abandoning repentance for all that has already happened and cannot be changed, do not leave your mind at the mercy of painful and sad memories, live here and now and think about the future with optimism.
But be careful! Forgiveness is not acting as if nothing, as if it were not something serious, because it is actually very important, so forgiving is accepting, but not fulfilling, we must act so that the perpetrator pays for what he has done, so that his actions have consequences.
Forgiveness is not forgetting everything overnight, it is impossible, you have feelings and you have to drain the wound to heal.
You have a right and it’s very beneficial to seek therapy, someone who listens to you and understands how you feel. Expressing our feelings is very healthy. Over time, do they heal the wounds?
Of course, forgiveness is very difficult when we talk, for example, about sexual abuse, we lose self-esteem, fear overwhelms us and sadness overwhelms us, it is normal, we can only forgive when we overcome this pain.
Emotions exist for a reason. Nature is wise, everything has a purpose, negative emotions can also be healthy in certain situations: sadness will help us assimilate everything that happened and express our pain, when this process is completed, we can forgive, resume our lives and even make changes to improve it even more.
As the wound bleeds, it is normal for your emotions to get a little confused; don’t judge yourself for it, having negative thoughts is normal.
Will you go through different phases: denial, anger, depression, acceptance?Don’t worry, it’s all part of your emotional healing, after following these steps you’ll experience acceptance of what happened and it’s very healthy for this to happen. In this way, you can forgive those who have hurt you so much.
To forgive, you have to believe that the people who commit crimes are not bad people, they are sick or confused people. Most of the time, fortunately, it is true. I say with joy because knowing their motives we can intervene and prevent further attacks.
You’ve got your whole life ahead of you and it’s not worth getting stuck in the past.
You are a resilient person and you will be able to get ahead of adversity, take advantage of this strength and follow your life as normally as possible, it may be little by little, go step by step, but do not give up. in your projects and dreams.
In the end, you’ll find that only forgiveness can set you free.