You leave without leaving an address?
“To change your life on the outside, you have to change inside. When you’re ready to change, is it amazing how the universe starts to help you and brings you what you need?”
- Thousands of people choose to change their lives each year.
- Leave their homes.
- Or move away from their families; others do not know whether or not to do so.
- Because of their responsibilities.
- The fear of the unknown or the existential emptiness.
What is the motivation to disappear?How do these people rebuild their lives without leaving the past?What are the consequences of this abandonment on those around you?
Although at first the idea of ‘leaving everything’ and starting from scratch can be very attractive to some people living in extreme situations, the truth is that building a full life in entirely new conditions is extremely difficult.
Deciding on such a radical change without working on certain foundations of each person’s history and personality will only increase the feeling of being adrift and repeating the same patterns of behavior that have already led to misfortune in the past.
The most common reasons why people tend to make the decision to cut off any connection to their past are:
“The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can change his life by changing his mental attitude?-William James-
One option with less life impact, but with more guarantees of stability, is to change your life without breaking everything.
Many people have the same desire to break away from everything, but still do not do it and choose a less dramatic, but no less profound change in themselves and in their environment:
? They have the same motivations for radical change, but consider that it should not involve abandoning their entire professional and family environment.
? They start exploring new sources of motivation and novelty in their environment, trying to perform different activities, meet new people and not go to the same places as before.
? Professionally they are looking for a promotion, a change of sector or the possibility of greater geographical mobility, if this is not possible, they can choose to change jobs but not domain.
? In the face of emotional difficulties, it is possible to opt for the help of a professional who helps individually, in couples therapy or in family therapy.
? If they finally decide to break a relationship, maintain emotional and responsible bonds but break the bonds of coexistence, it is something more balanced for them and for others.
Everyone has the right to change their life if they are not satisfied with it, but considering the feelings of others in their family, social and professional circle can be the difference between making a personal change more or less harmful to them. Other.
Therefore, changing in a way that involves the total abandonment of loved ones without giving explanations or time to assimilate and understand results in a double punishment: the one who leaves and the one who is abandoned.
Try to do as little damage as possible, even if you think your breakout and exit are fully justified.