“Do we sometimes confuse the desire to be alone with the need to be with the right person?
Francesc Miralles
- Having a loving relationship based on respect offers many satisfactions.
- Produces great well-being and can provide us with great support.
- Personal development is mutual and the two acquire unique and wonderful learning.
“People who enjoy satisfactory and stable relationships are balanced beings. They’re not looking for someone to “cover a hole. ” They recognize their own worth.
Andrew Matthews
This is a very personal matter, because many people have other priorities in life besides having a date, which is very respectable, for these people having a partner may not even fit the lifestyle they want to live, so they decide not to. Take one.
Having a partner is a choice, it is not necessary, because it depends on what everyone wants in their life, we can live perfectly without a partner, because our value as a person and our personal satisfaction do not depend on having a partner or not. .
The romantic relationships we have say a lot about ourselves, our insecurities, our vulnerabilities and our fears.
Often it seems that the same partner profile is repeated more than once, even if it ends up causing discontent, this does not happen by chance, it has much to do with what we still have to learn to maintain a healthy relationship.
We are often in contact with people who, far from making us happy because we are with them, end up filling us with bitterness and dissatisfaction.
The experience of living love in a relationship is a path of mutual maturity, in which we learn a lot from ourselves by exchanging tastes, passions and pleasures with the couple, we also share difficulties, fears and needs that do not correspond to our inner openness. Thus, we show the most intimate aspects that do not usually occur.
The relationship is no longer healthy when it becomes a necessity, an emotional dependence that puts our value on the other person, this way of creating bonds can be very harmful.
With or without a partner, the most important thing is to love each other above all, to appreciate and respect each other, in this way, we want or not to have a partner, we can create emotional bonds with others satisfactorily, these are the basic pillars to maintain a healthy relationship.
However, the goal of maintaining emotional ties with others is to feel good, however, it is essential to distinguish between someone’s need to obtain that well-being or to share it.
The healthy relationship implies the acceptance of sharing who we are with the other person in a common space, which also entitles us to enjoy our own space.
The most common thing in the society in which we live is to have a partner, or at least that is what society makes us believe and that we always see through the media, literature and our education.
You probably remember that more than one family member asked, “What about the bride and groom?”Since childhood? Finding a partner can end up being a burden on life, as some do so out of obligation, feeling bad because they don’t.
This idea has also been introduced through films and short stories, in which romantic love, princes and princesses, the existence of half of orange and the significant fact that it is necessary to suffer for love are given great importance. All these myths resonate, in our minds like, “You have to have a partner to be happy. “
Marriages and couples are consolidated in our culture as the fundamental core of the organization of our communities, however, many people decide not to have a partner, either for a fixed period or even for life.
The important question in this regard is that having a partner is part of a choice, not a necessity, at a time when this appears as a necessity, dependence, conformism and sense of belonging appear, so that we can build a relationship based on despair. .
“Knowing how to place love in our lives and know how to place yourself in love requires a work of personal growth so as not to confuse it with other things: possession, pressure, annulment, etc. To develop, in the day to day, the art of love is to understand love as an art: the art of sharing, harmony, creation?
Fina Sanz