There are environments that do not tolerate people’s suffering, encourage them to suppress pain and discomfort because they see them as symptoms of weakness and make others suffer without anyone noticing, to silence and deny eternal human frailty.
People intolerant of suffering do not allow any expression of sadness, without crying, without apathy, without emotional distance. They don’t cheer, they demand an immediate change of attitude. They call it weak and incompetent if you show signs of suffering.
- However.
- To suffer without anyone noticing is to put a veil to a facet of being and.
- Therefore.
- Of life.
- Is to renounce the expression of a very important part of ourselves.
- Is.
- No more or less.
- An action to please others.
- Which distorts our relationships and takes us away from ourselves.
“From suffering will emerge the strongest souls, the greatest characters were covered with scars. -Kahlil Gibran-
No form of repression succeeds. As hard as you try, everything you repress ends up coming back one way or another, most commonly it becomes a physical, mostly inexplicable and chronic symptom.
The human being needs to express how he feels to have good psychological health, suffering without anyone noticing can end up causing migraines, muscle aches, eating disorders, etc.
In environments that don’t tolerate pain, you may end up convincing yourself that sadness is absolutely negative, that you have to eradicate anyway, in fact, you may end up feeling guilty about feeling the pain, it’s a mistake. A healthy human being must be able to feel happiness and peace, but also fear, anger and pain.
Not feeling pain is an antisocial feature, only those suffering from severe psychological insufficiency do not feel pain, suffering also leads to positive results. One is to know and accept that we are vulnerable, and also to learn valuable lessons of humility and growth.
When you decide to suffer without anyone noticing, you change some natural processes, including bereavement. A loss results in a number of steps that must be taken to overcome the situation, otherwise the pain may be inhibited, but at the same time frozen.
The duel that doesn’t end usually turn into constant bitterness, you see reality negatively and you don’t appreciate what you’re going through, you end up painting your horizon dark gray, almost black, enthusiasm and optimism have no place. Discomfort persists and you may not be able to identify it.
The basis of solidarity between people is precisely the fragility that we all share, no matter how strong someone is, is still human, so you are subject to life experiences that affect you and require you to need the support of others. .
Suffering without anyone noticing basically validates the idea that everyone should be enough for themselves, so values like brotherhood or empathy lose all meaning, why help us if everyone had to be like an invulnerable fortress, that it needs nothing or anyone else??
Therefore, a community or society in which to suffer without anyone noticing is a selfish and insensitive community as well. Especially a community in which everyone should behave like a callous warrior, this can help some people deny that there is fragility, this can help them better manage their anxieties, however, this is a bad solution.
Suffering without anyone noticing is good for the individual or for society, the only way to overcome pain is to express it, let it out, so it dissolves over time to become a source of learning and maturity.