When we talk about sexual problems we usually think about issues related to orgasm, it is more common to comment on premature ejaculation in some men or the difficulty of reaching orgasm in some women, but are these the only problems of this kind?
No way. Among the difficulties that can affect our sex life, we find other problems that we do not know how to solve, or that we do not even know if they are a problem, in this article we will focus on the stage before sexual encounter. , in which desire is supposed to be born and nourished. Thus, we will try to identify from how far we can talk about a real problem of sexual desire and how to channel it. Read on to learn more!
“Not wanting anything is not to live” – Paul Geraldy-
To begin with, it is important to be clear about what the human sexual response is like, which consists of five phases that we will detail below:
In each of these phases problems can arise that hinder the occurrence of a satisfactory sexual relationship, these difficulties can be categorized into different dimensions: temporal, situational, degree of severity and etiology, versus the first, if dysfunction has always existed, it would be primary, while if it appears after a certain time, it would be secondary.
If it is present in all situations, we would call it general; However, if it is associated with very specific circumstances, in terms of the degree of severity, it can be total if presented at its maximum level, and in part otherwise. organic or functional.
“Living your desires, exhausting them in life, is the destiny of all existence” – Henry Miller-
In the first phase of human sexual response, several types of difficulties can arise, one of which would be a weak sexual desire. However, too high a desire would also be problematic behavior; However, the most common dysfunction at this stage would be inhibited sexual desire, which can lead to an aversion to sex (it becomes an obligation and they are no longer moments of pleasure). Inhibition of sexual desire is an abnormal and persistent reduction of desire and desire for sexual activity.
“There is only one driving force: desire. ” Aristotle
Why did this happen? The causes are very varied, starting with the relationship. If you have conflict or are routine, or if any of the members have sexual dysfunction, this can lead to inhibition of sexual desire. The desire arises from the anticipation of a pleasant situation; so, if the relationship is not perceived as pleasant at all levels, it is very difficult for desire to arise.
We’ve also found other causes. Physically, they influence certain medical problems and drug or drug use. In this sense, oral contraceptives or physical fatigue can also cause these problems.
Psychological and individual factors can influence anxiety, stress or depression, ambivalent sexual orientation or paraphilia; In addition, having traumatic sexual experiences is another possible trigger, which can lead to inhibitions that lead to sexual aversion, a feeling of extreme disgust towards sex.
The fact is that, since sexual desire is the first phase of this response, a problem in this regard greatly affects sexual activity and, therefore, the satisfaction that follows from it. Given the benefits of sexual practice, it’s important to seek help. of a psychologist if there’s such a problem, it’s up to you to solve it!
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