At certain times in our lives, we may wonder if we can really distinguish love from a need. Do we really know what love is?Why is it different from a need?
Talking about ‘love’, in any of its expressions, is very complicated by the excessive use of the word in questions that are actually very different.
- Being more than a word.
- It may be necessary to emphasize what is not love.
- Rather than seeking a possible definition.
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As for the love of? In its multiple manifestations, the passion is more confusing, as this transient state involves a modification of the neurotransmitters (increased dopamine and norepinephrine and decreased Serotonin) with an effect very similar to addiction.
Therefore, it is recommended to let this state of love pass to make decisions.
According to psychologist John Bradshaw, long-term relationships must overcome passion or transition to achieve “companionship. “
There is a very popular study on how we change memories on this subject. Holmberg and Holmes (1994) interviewed 400 couples who said they were in love and happy in the relationship.
Two years later, they were interviewed again and couples who had broken up or were in a worse situation said the relationship had gone wrong from the start. It allows us to see how we are able to build memories that justify our decisions.
Now let’s see what a romantic relationship is
Over the years, freedoms have been hidden and judgments, pride and ego have increased. To all this, the problem of technology is added with the consequent increase in the superficial appearance in humans.
Cosmetic operations grow as a gift, the obsession with getting recognition and decomposition; In addition, physical exhibitionism on social networks increases, to the point that there are already treatments and therapies for this great problem.
Love cannot be limited to temples, sects, religions, fashions, rites or philosophies Do you think you can label, classify or appropriate freedom?Therefore, love has no sanctuaries, because it is found when it is not sought and appears when obstacles are removed.
Wasn’t there light when the room was covered?All you have to do is open them. Freedom is not something to be s searched for; you seem to realize your lockdown.
A bird does not sing to be applauded, and this nature attributes beauty to its melodies, sometimes you see love as a result, something very laborious, it is about overcoming more than winning. Then there are obstacles.
This also happens with hobbies and attitudes, we are not educated to love what we do, but to love the result and seek recognition, this takes us away from the beauty of natural passion that results from aimless behavior, from a reaction to harmony with our environment.
We must break and question any condition that limits and hides that capacity for love within you, is that what you do for what is expected of you or what you want?
There are people so trapped in identification who end up loving a symbol more than a person, a flag or an ideology as a priority to divide and feel special, missing and empty for fear of love, because love takes everything away. you thought I was safe.
It is very common to confuse love with necessity, many teenagers start a relationship because their friends already have a partner, do you think it is better to have a partner before learning to deal with loneliness, fear, avoidance, protection?example of how attachment can make us mentally dependent on someone else.
Since love is freedom, attachment is an obstacle to love. You need to know how solving this problem, sharing freedoms strengthens us, being dependent prevents us from loving.
In short, love is born when the ego disappears with its need for attention.
There are many trains that run through your life; everyone remembers him and everyone clings to him to demonstrate his point of view. Is this your chance?! And nobody, nobody, nobody?Remember, sometimes you have to get off the train first.