We cried for different reasons, something that gave us a lot of joy and that we would like to celebrate, even something that disappointed us or when we feel helplessness or frustration.
Crying is a universal act, which is good for releasing and releasing at certain times, is not something we usually do continuously, because we tend to repress ourselves until we can be with someone we trust or alone.
- But tears also have their drawbacks.
- For example.
- When crying becomes an immediate response to a frustrated situation or negative event.
- Or when used to manipulate and achieve what is desired.
- In these cases it is used for more than just emotional liberation.
With all this, it is possible to differentiate between positive and negative cries How is each of them?
See!
“The tears shed are bitter, but are the bitterest ones not shed?
? Irish Proverb?
That’s the cry we often try to suppress, either out of shame or because we don’t want them to be vulnerable.
This is the first kind of positive crying: crying when something hurts us, when does that happen?When do we lose someone, when they let us down, when they use us?There are many reasons to cry for something that makes us sick.
In this kind of cry we tend to walk away to be alone with our pain, we are aware of something that we have lost and we will not recover, we need a lonely and peaceful place that allows us to cry until we completely unload.
This second type of positive crying refers to the changes that occur in life and that modify it, for example, when we move, finish a career, change occupation, change jobs, get married, have a child, find our partner, etc.
There are many momentous changes in life that make us cry, often the result of positive emotion, and help us cope with change successfully.
This third type of positive crying is caused by the discovery of a truth we do not know, this happens when we open our eyes to something we have not seen or wanted to see.
When we opened our eyes to a situation from which we did not know the truth, it is sometimes accompanied by tears. Why were we blind and this?New awakening? It affects us in such a way that our reaction cries.
“Crocodiles shed tears when they devour their victims. Is there your wisdom?
? Sir Francis Bacon?
After understanding positive crying, let’s see the toxic crying. Like crying to be toxic? What does that mean?
Let’s find out!
“Crocodile tears,” or manipulative tears, are used to change something at will. For example, when a child wants to get something from his mother, he uses manipulative crying. Speakers who want to make their audience vibrate or just add more excitement to what they say, also use it.
You have to be careful with this kind of crying. We must not abuse him, because we will lose our credibility when we truly cry. It’s often easy to identify this type of crying. Sometimes people who use it don’t even have tears in their eyes. The crying soon ends, his face, shows supposed expressions, etc.
This type of tear is a consequence of religious beliefs, in the Middle Ages tears were considered a kind of gift, so prayers were said mainly with tears.
For example, in the vicinity of Easter, mourners are a good example of this type of crying. They are usually women who weep in the procession to reflect the complaint of Christ’s death. These women were hired to cry at the funeral, false cry, not real and for religious purposes.
Sometimes when we’re sad we have to look for something that forces us to cry to get rid of all that sadness, for example, we watch a movie or listen to a song that makes us cry, what’s so negative about it?Negativity occurs when, for no reason, we seek what makes us cry.
Crying immerses us in a state of melancholy and sadness that we usually avoid, looking for it ordinaryly is not the most appropriate.
We have already seen the two types of crying that exist, but we must remember another important fact: the false belief that crying is positive in women and negative in men, this vision that has been imposed on us culturally still prevails in our society, coupled with the idea that crying is a sign of weakness.
But crying is not a habit of the weak. Men don’t always have to be strong and whole, crying is an emotion like any other and we all have the right to express it.