In one way or another, our culture and society have led us to believe that people are forced to go through what many define as a midlife crisis, now if you are someone who has already turned 40 or 50 years old, already you know. what is happening is actually an alarm clock. It is a wisdom that sets aside old beliefs, conventions and stereotypes to reformulate, to write a new and better personal step.
If there is one word you hear almost excessively, it’s the word crisis. Are there social crises, economic crises, cultural crises? Not to mention personal crises. More than something punctual in time or occasional throughout the life cycle, it could be assumed that, in fact, human beings live in permanent states of change, oscillations and problems of greater or lesser intensity.
“Don’t be afraid of slow changes, fear stops, stays still. “Chinese Proverb.
Now, if we look at this term for a while, we will achieve one aspect: in a clinical context, a crisis involves a transient disorder of disorganization, this implies that the person feels unable to handle certain things with the methods or resources available in that there is also a traumatic element or threatens to see their expectations threatened or destroyed.
If we apply this definition to the so-called quarantine crisis, we will realize that many of these points are not being met, at least not in the new generations of men and, in particular, in women who have already reached this more mature stage of life. The cycle of human life, this new sector of the population challenges the traditional vision of this critical period, because what we have today is what many define as an awakening, there is a quest to achieve something better, a positive reformulation in which it is possible to gain strength and personal growth.
In psychology we understand that every stage of human existence has a number of challenges and difficulties, in this way so-called crises or transitions of development shape the moments between childhood and old age, in which various interferences often arise that call into question our identity, our expectations and the sense of control to which we aspire. The person is forced to leave behind certain ideas to assume new realities that are necessary.
Somehow we assume, or want to assume, that there are some predictable crises, and adolescence is an example, today the midlife crisis is undergoing so many changes that it practically requires a new definition, so, and not long ago, enter that moment in life which is actually a kind of “end-of-summer vacation”, but with otoñal air this involved only one thing : assume that youth was gone and that some changes were occurring: aging, menopause, loss of parents, empty nest syndrome, etc. ?
But today we have many other ideas for this summer. Other winds much more renewed.
Today there are many voices calling for the quarantine crisis to be changed to “seeking an identity in the middle of life. “There’s a transition, there’s no doubt about it. But more than the loss of something, what happens is the search for something very personal, wanting to leave one step behind to start another with better resources, more freedom and a new identity.
It is a period of profit in several ways
Social media is a reflection of our reality. To understand the essence of this change in the so-called midlife crisis, simply go through the hashtag #Fab, which means “Fifty and more”, or fifty-more in Portuguese. a whole generational movement full of vitality. Because middle age is not old age, it is not a loss, it is a gain and above all an expansion.
Fifty? Today they are very active intellectually and professionally, it is a human capital that offers excellence for companies and quality for any organization and project, because they have a more developed critical sense, because they know how to solve problems better and have experience. and even update the knowledge they apply through lateral thinking.
Moreover, we cannot ignore the ever-changing and hopeful social change that women are experiencing today, we see them in positions of power, we witness how they carry out their leadership projects, how they are able to radically change their lives to achieve their youth. dreams, even if they have already reached maturity.
In conclusion, the midlife crisis is no longer a negative period, because when we reach this middle age nothing was lost, on the contrary, we earn a lot, because the old values have disappeared and we no longer bring happiness to youth. Being, realization and dreams are ageless. At the end of the day, someone really only begins to age the day they stop looking for their dreams and see their goals on the horizon, the day their goals die, and the fear or shadow of limitation. Appears.
We will no longer call this phase of midlife crisis, it is just a wonderful call for attention.