An old woman reads a diary to an old woman, who talks about the eternal love of a couple who met in the 1940s: Allie and Noah, fell in love, but their parents opposed having a relationship with a boy who did not. have a lot of financial resources.
Life separated them, but they never forgot, until they met. These young men are these two elders and the man reads the story daily to the woman, who has lost her memory, to remind her of a love they have. never forgotten.
- This is the story that tells the film “The Diary of a Passion”.
- One of the most romantic and moving films of recent years.
- Seeing something like this makes us think: can we have such an intense.
- Sincere and lasting relationship.
- In a world where many relationships start very quickly and disappear in a few days or months?.
It seems that everything is very superficial, leaves us empty?Where is the time that makes us know a real person?Why are we so afraid of stripping our souls naked? Relationships may or may not be eternal, but we don’t even give ourselves the time or courage to discover them.
“But if we don’t see each other again and it’s a farewell, I know we’ll see each other in another life. We’ll see each other again, and even if the stars have changed, we won’t love each other once?, but every previous time?
? The notebook?
Harvard University has published a study that concludes what some couples can say: eternal love exists and has only one secret: to feel true empathy for each other. According to therapist Charlotte Pasquier: “For a couple to get along, two people have to walk in the same direction, but you don’t need to have an equal opinion on everything, or want the same things, just be aware of their desires. On the other hand?.
As we have said, according to this study, the secret of lasting love is empathy for the other person, that is, there is a mental and emotional identification of one person with the mood of the other, eternal love tries to understand without judgment.
“If you fall, I’ll lift you up, and if you don’t, I’ll sleep with you.
? Julio Cortzar?
A group of neurochemists at Stony Brook University in New York found evidence that eternal love is possible. The scientists measured the brain reactions of a group of volunteers who had just started romantic relationships.
They found that when we see the photo of the person we love, the ventral tegmental area of the mesencephalus reacts, an area of the brain dedicated to the treatment of dopamine, a neurotransmitter responsible for motivating cravings.
If someone else’s picture was shown, even if it looked like a loved one or an old friend with which the person did not have a romantic relationship, the brain would not change. Soon married people (10 women and 7 men) were analyzed for many years (approximately 20) who claimed to preserve feelings of love for their partner.
The reactions of their brains were measured in the same way and recorded on a seven-point scale, to analyze the intensity of the volunteers’ love for their partners. Well, the minimum intensity recorded in this group of volunteers was five points.
The reactions of this group of people were recorded in the same area of the brain as in another group of “new lovers”: the ventral tegmental zone and the striatum. However, there were also differences: if in the volunteers of the first group the areas responsible for obsessions and nervous tensions were affected, in addition to those mentioned above, in the people of the second group, the areas of friendship and motherhood were affected .
Of course, there is no magic formula for love to last, but if we want a relationship to last, we have to make a very important effort on a day-to-day basis. Next, we will expose some of the secrets necessary for a relationship to last, to be strong and lasting:
The most enduring couples are those who share different values, principles and tastes. You don’t have to be just like your partner, but you need to have things in common that can be shared and appreciated together. It is recommended that there be one part of the intimacy and another shared with our partner.
“Because, without looking, I find you everywhere, especially when I close my eyes?
? Julio Cortzar?
It is very important to learn to see humorous situations and take drama out of certain circumstances, couple conflicts can take a more relaxed form if you use humor, always with respect for the other person.
The admiration and the ability to learn from each other and to reciprocte is one of the aspects that joins the most, it is very positive to express this admiration in different ways and let the other person know, and also transmit it.
Do not imply that the other person knows that he loves her; demonstrate it on a daily basis, even in small details?how to make coffee in the morning, give flowers, leave affectionate messages?It’s about taking care of the relationship and the love we feel for our partner.