What do you think, not to leave one relationship at a time and to be undecided in time?Don’t leave it at first, leave it slowly. Don’t close the doors at all, keep them open. Something like that, leaving a wound ajar and doing nothing to heal it, closing the doors right away means being clear about the decision to make, and it’s not easy, but above all it means not lengthening the time of suffering.
This means having courage and assuming the consequences that will come as soon as you make the decision. Sometimes we don’t make the decision because we’re not entirely aware of the damage we’re going through in a relationship. Or we don’t. We don’t take it because we’re not very aware of the emotional dependence that unites our partner. For everything.
- Emotional dependence boosts our self-esteem with its current.
- She can do anything.
- It is like a tsunami with brute and powerful force.
- Destroying absolutely everything that passes through.
- Even the pillars that support a house.
- Like our own ‘house’.
Our own house must always be built on solid pillars. Pillars of self-love, self-love and care. If we don’t have these pillars at home, we’ll be looking down the street. Then we’ll be sold to anyone who shows us a little love. Something like “I love you more than I do. ” A beautiful phrase for a song, but devastating to any heart.
Emotional dependence and self-love are the chains we live with that prevent us from moving freely, blind us, and make us a puppet of mistake.
Loving the other is beautiful, but we can never lose the love we must feel for ourselves. Never can love for another person justify the fact that we are trampled. To do this, we must impose limits that protect us from evil. love for ourselves, I’m not talking about a narcissistic love in which we only see ourselves, I talk about healthy limits that make us run away from what’s hurting us.
Often, the defense mechanism behind this behavior of gradually leaving, prolonging the end, or simply ignoring verbalization is denial. I’m covering my eyes. I don’t see what’s in front of me, I make up a thousand and one excuses not to see reality and not to make a final decision.
You probably know people who have used denial to avoid having to face the consequences of an ending. Being alone, going through the pain that comes when you leave someone you love, assuming that love doesn’t justify everything? They are inevitable consequences that we must live with.
There are people who, by not accepting the reality of self-esteem, continue in complicated relationships that destroy their peace of mind, maintain harm rather than be alone, and close the door to this relationship so bad for them. , the tsunami arrives and destroys them. We become puppets guided by addiction and denial.
So there are relationships that it is better to leave them at the same time, close the door without leaving it open, either for weeks, months or even years, keeping it ajar also maintains emotional dependence and blindness. Close the door without fear. (And if you’re afraid, share this situation with the people you love, or if you need therapy?Do it!)
The learning you will get once you have made this decision will be immense and will serve you for all the difficult moments you have gone through since then, in this way the pillars of your life will be strengthened with this new movement that you will make. .
I wish all those whose doors are ajar and who, deep down, know that this is one of the best decisions they can make. And as St Augustine said: “Happiness consists in accepting with joy what life gives us and liberating with the same joy. what life takes away from us. “