If there is something you learn sooner or later, you don’t have to wait for things to happen on their own, to be happy in this life you need to make decisions, and it’s only when we’re able to promote it. magical inner change that what surrounds us is also imbued with such a harmonious movement.
One of the most notable writers in the history of literature was undoubtedly Anton Chekhov. This fine, critical and skilful pen in the emotional and psychological world reminds us through its stories that ordinary people are the ones who always expect good and evil from the outside, while the wise are the ones who expect everything from themselves.
- When you stop waiting.
- Life changes.
- This is something I’ve learned over time because it’s not enough to wish for.
- Because a desire thrown on starry nights doesn’t change anything.
- But a decision changes everything.
On the other hand, we also know that people are often forced to wait, this happens with the teenager who wants to be an adult, the adult who aspires to find a good job and, in turn, with us every day when we wait. The subway that will take us home. We’re still waiting for something.
However, the art of waiting without despair also implies that during this time we sow “seeds”, as it never hurts. Small actions, thoughts and initiatives that in themselves also generate their own movement.
Many of us have been educated in this culture of faith and reward, where we believe that in life, as in stories, there is always a happy ending, they explained to us that we have to tolerate frustration before we receive a positive stimulus, and they also told us, almost whispering, that good people always get good things.
However, as we swallowed a lot of reality after another and fell into these ‘bear traps’. From the ways of our lives, many have come to the conclusion that people have no control over what we call life. We believe it is better to wait, close up and take root in our own comfort zone while looking at the window of life, waiting for luck to knock on our door.
Now, do good people get good things?Are we the exception to the rule? Life doesn’t work that way.
Waiting should never be the only option to the problems and the emptiness of our own existence, it’s time to give up what we feel and think about what we really need, the world is not pink, as we know, but it’s not really gray either. nor hostile Reality is the color you want to see.
People often blame their environment and the people who inhabit it for their own misfortune, for cutting off their wings to their growth and opportunities. With this pattern of thought, what really happens is to fertilize the mind with the land of discomfort to plant the seeds. suffering.
Of course, you’ve heard and read more than once that what you think influences your behaviors and emotions, but despite knowing this, we can’t always put the reins of this wild horse that’s fear.
“If I stop blaming my partner for my misfortune and leave him, I will be alone and that is something that scares me a lot. ” “I would rather wait to have new job offers in my city than to change cities, because this scenario makes me very insecure. “
Almost not knowing how, our minds become real washing machines where terrifying speeches and anxieties that lead to a kind of victimization in which we just see only what doesn’t work rather than pay attention to what’s going well turns around. Right. We need to take a turn in our cognitive styles and also understand that life does not wait, does not stop and does not prevent, in fact, we are giving up.
One thing to keep in mind is that in terms of happiness and dream realization there is no magic formula, each of us is able to find the equation that best suits us, depending on our own needs, personality and circumstances.
However, some basic guidelines can help us cross the line of fear, generate change, and stop waiting.
Do not anticipate anything that may or may not happen and simply open your mind, because life is not a problem to be solved, it is a mystery to live.