Some say the changes are difficult. I say that the changes are different, and anything that is different is a little scary, changing the mental habits that we have been cultivating for 30, 40, 50 years is delicate and requires a lot of courage, perseverance and time. Sounds tired hablar. no doesn’t it? And I admit it: sometimes it gets very tired and we have relapses. However, over time, with each relapse you get up faster, get stronger and see that it is possible to start over.
When we discover that we go in circles, for example, in romantic relationships with like-minded people and similar purposes; harmful friendships, but you keep so you don’t just feel the difficulty of saying no and, in the end, doing favors or things I wouldn’t want to do; impulsive attitudes that you always regret afterwards, but what do you keep doing and regreting over and over again?Snap ?, has already been given: conscience.
- What is the first step to start over? There is no magic formula.
- I can tell you how it went.
- After more than 25 years of repetitive attitudes I began to analyze myself.
- Wondering why my relationships always ended the same.
- Why I wanted to be the best.
- Because I was always involved in some confusion.
I remembered a book I had received from a friend in college on yoga breathing techniques. It was his way of telling me that I needed more time for myself and to be calmer, but, at that moment, I did not have the maturity to understand.
Aware that things had to change, this memory came to me. Among many others, the universe has begun to open its doors. I met people who weren’t afraid to tell me the truth, to be honest with me and instead of being aggressive, I started listening to them, you know when you feel like you’re listening to your own conscience?Way. They’re real friends.
I started to surround myself with the right people. If you want to become spiritually stronger, for example, you need to connect with spiritually stronger people and it’s not a matter of superiority, don’t get me wrong, there’s no one superior to anyone. In this case, in particular, someone who has been working on spirituality for longer than you will be able to learn more about the subject in this regard, but if you want to be more spiritual and surround yourself with people who have not worked on that side the journey will be much longer, I chose the first option.
I started practicing yoga and discovered that the practice is not just for the body, as it has been very misinformed by the media. Yoga is an ancient practice that is mainly used to balance the body and mind and therefore helps achieve inner balance. peace, emotional balance, harmony with people and nature. And even my dream was positively affected. My life started to change.
I started reading a lot of books about Buddhism, thoughts of Osho and other great thinkers, and I saw that nothing happened by chance, everything has a root.
I had to face one of the biggest taboos of my life: psychology, every time we see in the movies, psychologists are these people sitting in a large chair, the patient lying on a couch talking only for 50 minutes on a treatment that lasts 10, 15 years and often without result. I knew I had to work on my blockages, root problems, but I didn’t want to be the person talking to me on the couch for years.
And once again, the universe conspired and put in my life a very special psychologist, she showed me that there are several forms of therapy and we found one that perfectly suited my needs, gradually closed doors opened inside me a long time ago and I was not afraid, I entered, I took care of what I had to take care of and I left , it’s an ongoing job. But every tear, every memory was worth it and helped me break the cycles.
Thoughts so ingrained that they made me do the same thing over and over again, lies that have repeated to me so many times that they were in me as truth, and made me repeat and repeat acts trying to prove, already to myself and not to those who said the words, that I was able, that I was different, and when you understand that, it is liberating. You have nothing to prove.
More human, fairer, more balanced, more spiritual. I love myself more and more every day, I’ve learned to say no and it’s liberating. I no longer take other people’s problems for myself, that doesn’t mean I’ve become cold, on the contrary, I’m more human with myself. And then people realize they can’t take advantage of me anymore, so they’re no longer trying to relieve me of their problems.
People depend on people and, being interconnected, are in tune with the universe. To be in harmony with the universe, with nature, you have peace and love and this emanates from those around you. And no one can do anything wrong to hurt, to destroy someone who is fortified inside. It’s all from the inside.
So, no matter how you choose to end suffering, loneliness, sadness, cycles. . . dedicate yourself with your heart and don’t give up. It is possible to start over and the result is worth it You will be free!