Nobody really knows whether or not he’s right about love. Love is felt with all its expansion and blind certainty, until suffering quickly becomes that daily companion to which one should never get used to it.
You can write a lot of things about love. We all know these famous manuals, we have read more than one self-help book signed by experts, by great gurus who seem to have the best advice on any emotional problem.
- So why do we keep making mistakes in so many of our relationships?The truth is.
- No one is immune to suffering.
- Not even the brain.
- With all its knowledge.
- Reading and experience.
- Has complete control of the reins of the heart.
They keep saying that “if you give yourself up completely to someone, you can only love them again in pieces. “However, how can we offer and love someone but with all our being, with all our fullness, immensity and peculiarity?
Love that seems true is not offered in pieces, as if a part of it is for me and for you, is it offered totally, fully, because we love it completely, sincerely?And that may be where the real risk is.
In this life nothing is certain, we walk in a world that flows and changes continuously, people, like feelings, are also prone to error. No one can have perfect love, yet is there always anything to keep in mind?
You don’t need to be afraid of loneliness, you don’t need to see it as a bad choice, sometimes it’s the best way to be in a relationship with yourself, it’s the catharsis of bad loves that you free yourself from because sometimes it’s better to be alone than bad in love?
There are wise loves, full loves that enrich us and make our lives more complete and uplifting, are relationships where both members respect their spaces, where individual growth is possible, and also that of the couple itself.
Could it be that more than one person asks?But does this kind of relationship really exist?This search may take half a lifetime, or the person listed may be near you and you may not have seen it yet, but we all have our moment, the moment when we need to know how to see with an open heart and an awake mind.
There are also those people who, throughout their lives, have experienced one failure after another, it is as if instead of moving the stones out of the way they put them in your backpack, and then it was impossible to move forward, grow?
What sometimes forces us to live these harmful and illogical loves?The truth is that there are many explanations for this, and although we can know them all, it does not prevent us from falling into it more than once.
Because that’s right, love sometimes blinds us and drives us, no matter what the people around us say, our reality is ours and we get carried away, until, in fact, do we open our eyes?
Now let’s see what these facts are, that of falling into such harmful relationships.
Suddenly, someone appears who recognizes our words, who is kind and interested in what we do, what we say, we are at night in the morning at the center of someone else’s life, and that person is doing us good.
Generally, it is people with low self-esteem who are most likely to get carried away by this kind of relationship, sometimes so destructive.
We all have a shortage, and the mere fact that we have someone who initially fills our gaps and takes care of our corners, allefing our fears, is something that comforts us, yet in most cases, this is nothing more than a false illusion.
In the long run, these harmful loves create more space, more emptiness, and more fragments.
You may be surprised, but the title of this article would not apply to many people. Some people don’t do it to be alone. Loneliness is a vital failure and also a disgrace to society for some people.
And so they will take it and accept anything. Relationships, while destructive and infringe upon your rights as a person, are in turn maintained as a ‘comfort zone’. Much easier to manage than what lies behind this “security” line. “(or destruction).
This aspect may also surprise more than one person, but today there are still those who assume these questionable ideas such as: “In love, if there is no suffering you really don’t like?”is he the one who can take it the most, the one who suffers the most ??
Should many of these preconceived notions of romantic love be reversed, where these traditional roles of submission and domination are implied, where the one he loves most is the most jealous?You have to be careful with these concepts that are still very very present in our society.
They say there is always such a strong love in life that it will tear us apart and make us love in pieces. It doesn’t have to be so dramatic; take out your coins, one by one and without losing any again, with optimism, always starting with yourself.
Image credits: Catrin Weltz Stein