Carlos Fuentes says that “the past is written in memory and the future is present in desire”. Living connected to the past or anxious about what will happen in the future is a way to get lost in the present. The problem is not to remember intense moments, nor to idealize a desired life; the problem arises when you take refuge anywhere all the time.
But what drives many people to turn the past into their present?Resisting accepting the reality presented to them or considering that a decision made in the past is the cause of present misfortune are the reasons that make many people live badly.
- The past is written with all these experiences that brought us here.
- To this place and in this way.
- It is a safe full of good and bad experiences.
- Bad and happy decisions.
- Sadness and joy.
- And people coming and going in our lives.
It is not a question of giving up the past, but of preventing it from becoming an equality, a ballast that paralyzes us and disturbs us to enjoy the present. We came to him by heart. Feeling the need to live in the past is a behavior that is not recommended for our personal development.
A Russian proverb says that “to wish for the past is to drive the wind. ” Constantly looking back and settling in the past tends to be typical of people who fear the present, life and uncertainty and cling to the past because they know what is happening gives them security.
It is not about erasing our past, because remembering pleasant moments gives us pleasure and joy, it is about letting go of the ballast and accepting that the past is a spontaneous thought and not a real experience. the memory of lived experiences, joyful or sad, to turn them into a teaching to improve our condition as human beings
The goal is to stop talking over and over again about what has happened, especially what has hurt us, to start living a gift without much guilt or pain. As the Arabic proverb says, “knowing that the past has already fled, what is expected is absent, but the present is yours. “
How to fight this desire to live in the known?The solution is in our minds, holding back the moment when the thoughts of the past become obsessive and martyr our present. Becoming in continuous melancholy is a mistake because, by chance or wrong. luck, you can’t travel back in time, by blaming us for a past decision and turning your head to find a solution to something that no longer exists, all we can achieve is psychological punishment that doesn’t allow us to enjoy our present moment.
John Lennon said “some are willing to do anything but live here and now. “To get rid of this weight, try to focus on the present, enjoy and become aware of the moment you live. Stop time-traveling to try to correct the impossible and delete phrases like ‘if you had done so’. Do it now.