Psychological projection. This term has been widely developed by Freudian theory, showing us a familiar practice that we often encounter, we may even have done it ourselves on some occasions, almost without realizing it.
An example? Think of that moment when you were deeply in love/ with someone, one way or another, and almost unconsciously, this person is assigned traits and virtues that do not correspond entirely to reality, you praised his kindness, his concern, his successes and his achievements. great attributes for that halo of perfection you projected on him/her.
- Love is sometimes a very conducive context for the development of psychological projection.
- But the real problem.
- The most complex.
- Occurs when a clearly negative projection is implemented.
- Where the person who executes it has obvious emotional deficiencies.
- Due to other causes.
- Thoughts full of anger and anxiety.
Today we talk about feelings of guilt and how, sometimes, far from taking them on and facing them, we point them outward with the intention of hurting others, the nearest ones, who are supposed to be most appreciated.
Let’s start with an example. Your partner is an insecure person who fears commitment Far from assuming this reality, begins to punish you by saying that you don’t make things easier, the problem is not with you, it’s with him, but far from facing the fact that he has a problem of self-esteem and self-confidence, punishes, pointing out things that are not true, shoots your anger with sharp darts , and project your negative emotions into you because, in this way, you reach these dimensions:
The issue of psychological projection is really complex. And unfortunately common, sometimes many people who suffer physical and psychological abuse continue to project a positive image of their partner, what is the reason?Because, in this way, they protect themselves from reality.
“If my partner is jealous, it’s because he loves me. ” Basically, my partner loves me, sometimes he’s wrong, but he’s the person who cares most about me. “Projecting these ideas is a distortion of reality, where your world is the most harmless This is where we must not accept reality with all its cruelty, we must be able to react and defend ourselves.
But then how do you break these projections?
But, in general, it is not easy to accept that we all conceived at some point, sometimes we do it without realizing it, we think that the defect is there and not in ourselves, to think that the person we love is little more than a perfect creature, for example?
We all have flaws, we all have needs, ideally would we always act with humility and objectivity?Because, in the end, we’re all beautiful, imperfect beings who try to survive in a complex world, okay?
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