Things aren’t always the way we’d like them to be, aren’t your romantic relationship okay?Don’t you think no one respects or loves you?Have you had a complicated childhood or adolescence?If these and other things are killing you, it’s because you allow it. However, it is never too late to take the reins.
The way you handle your problems and what comes next is what makes the difference. No matter how long his ghosts have chased him, how much time he spends trying to overcome his fears, or what he thinks others are trying to impose on him. It’s never too late to say it, so what?
“Sometimes people let the same problem overwhelm them for years, when they can say, so what?
Accepting the situation is the only thing that will make you come back, it is only when you accept that things are as they are and not as you would like them to be, that you get the weapons necessary to face your reality. the cards he’s taken out, he can’t pick them.
You should try to understand the rules of the game, the strategy of other players and the obstacles that arise to play your cards. Regardless of whether there are logical explanations, it is not a question of streamlining the situation. You still can’t agree, disagree or understand why. What matters is that by accepting everything that comes, you can recover because you know where you come from.
“Understanding is the first step towards acceptance, and only with acceptance can recovery come” – JK Rowling in “Harry Potter and the Chalice of Fire?”-
We cannot change what we have already been through and what has happened to us, but we can change the way we deal with what is to come, including how we deal. Therefore, the first thing you have to do is forgive yourself. It is necessary to release the ballast to move forward.
Aren’t things the way you’d like them to be?If there’s nothing to do, why do you let him consume you, why do you let that control you?It’s never too late to change the way you see things.
Is it never too late to start over, to fall in love again, to do what you love, to be what you want to be, to discover yourself?It’s never too late to release the load, no matter what you’ve accumulated in your emotional backpack or as attached as you are.
Trying to change things is not always a possible option. Actually, the only thing you can change is yourself. It’s just changing that you’ll have the opportunity to inspire someone to change, but until this change is voluntary, there’s nothing you can do.
Sometimes circumstances are what they are and there’s nothing you can do to avoid or change them, so you have to adapt, wait and not worry too much about what you can’t change, in the meantime there are many other things to focus on, for example, preparing for what’s next.
“Because after all, the best thing you can do when it rains is let it rain. “Henry Wadsworth Longfellow-
If you don’t stop looking back, you’ll miss a lot of good things waiting for you along the way. Things don’t have to be the same. Nor should we forget them, just let them go, give them their place in your story without dragging them in every step you take.
Maybe for the rest of the world your mistakes and your story are unforgivable and insurmountable, maybe around you you don’t have the love you want, but all that really matters is that you forgive yourself, that they love each other.
Don’t you have the life you wanted?The one you have is full of opportunities, but you won’t see them until you stop looking the wrong way.