Sometimes we blame ourselves for feeling deep anguish; we don’t realize that in certain situations it’s normal to feel bad.
Have you ever wondered what’s behind certain phrases like “You get ugly when you cry?””Doesn’t the man cry?” They are seemingly innocent, harmful phrases that censor as much as macabre instruments of torture.
- One way or another.
- They tell us that there is something wrong with what we feel.
- That we should not feel that way.
- That we should not be sad after a loss.
- Irritation and anger after a betrayal.
- But should we?Shouldn’t we really feel that way?.
Recognizing all our emotions increases the stages of our self-knownness.
We all went through good times and bad times. It is part of our nature; The alternation is a consequence of the dynamism of the circumstances we are going through. At first, mood swings are not bad, unlike some cultures.
Thus, on many occasions, we can feel bad, not only because of loss or betrayal, but also because of the helplessness of not being able to quickly get out of this mood, that is where we direct all our anger against ourselves, deepening the wound, making the cut even more painful.
In fact, it’s normal to feel bad when
Here are just a few examples. In reality, the purpose of emotions is to accept and listen to them, when we understand them as messengers and not as those that cause bad news, everything flows better.
When we change perspective and see that feeling unwell is a great learning window, the intensity of suffering decreases, this does not mean that we are automatically starting to feel good, yet we are moving away from suffering. Remember that suffering can be, at least in large part, optional.
Thus we can take the opportunity to make resilience one of our greatest virtues, that is, we can overcome discomfort, find meaning in our lives and learn from each experience.
There are several options. We can start by making a journey to the depths of our being. Self-knowledge is a powerful key that lets us know how we are and where we want to go.
Another alternative is to identify how emotionally we are and then start setting goals to be more assertive in choosing our coping strategies.
For example, if you know you’re irritated by a mistake, you can start working on it now: you can express this irritation in a more controlled way, and you can also prevent it from reaching very high levels.
You can also ask for help. A professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist, can be excellent support, we can all need support, and these professionals are not only helpful when we’re unwell, but also guide us to maximize the best of ourselves.
Another option is to perform activities that help improve your mood, some examples are physical exercises, painting, dancing, outings with friends, etc.
The important thing is to make sense of the trajectory we have charted in time, so we will start saying goodbye to suffering. This is what Viktor Frankl is talking about in his book Man in Search of Meaning, a wonderful and wonderful account of his life experience.
In short, it is normal to feel bad when you are at this point of emotional acceptance, when we leave a space for emotions to take the air and communicate their message to us, after that, they will have nothing more to say, but they will leave us their energy of reflection and action before we leave.