Feeling jealous, angry, sad or angry is as natural as breathing, but many times we don’t know how to handle the emotions we feel. Some emotions are inherent in the human condition, although sometimes we may be ashamed to feel them. or not knowing how to express them can lead to situations of great anxiety.
Wanting to control what we feel at all times is a lost battle, no long as we try, but still, the truth is that we have to be careful what we do and say when we are under the influence of an emotion, because that is our responsibility.
- So considering not everything going as we expect is a good idea not to get frustrated and not overwhelmed by discomfort.
- Rather than being angry or depressed by something that is beyond our control.
- In this last way we will only waste energy as we see.
- The good news is that even if we can’t control the emotions we feel.
- We can decide what to do with them.
- Let’s go further in this idea.
Emotions carry a deep message: they serve to indicate that something is happening in our lives and that, in some cases, we must solve it, for example, anxiety warns us that danger is near and sadness, that we have suffered a loss that must assimilate us. The goal is to learn how to decipher them to get to know each other and act accordingly.
Every emotion is useful, therefore, we do not have to fight them, because it is necessary and necessary that we can feel them, understand them and listen to them. Only in this way can we generate the right strategies to successfully address the problems and challenges that arise.
As we see, we should not be afraid when we experience negative emotions such as sadness, frustration or envy, because if we know how to approach them, they will help us to face the problem present in our lives and, above all, to But if the intensity of these negative emotions increases and we get to the point of not knowing how to handle them, it would be more appropriate to seek the help of a professional who can help us not harm our relationships and hurt us.
On the other hand, we cannot forget the positive emotions, being the joy the most powerful of them, these emotions are adaptive, as long as they are expressed in balanced terms, their message serves to inform us that we are at a time that benefits us and produces well-being.
There is no magic recipe for managing emotions, what is clear is that denying these emotions or trying to control them leads to altered emotional states that do us no good, our desire to be perfect people prevents us from being real people, we are not robots. or superhuman; we are people and people feel all kinds of emotions.
“When I say controlling emotions, I mean really stressful and disabling. Is it emotion that enriches our lives?
As we have seen, when our emotions become very intense or long-lasting it is because something is wrong with the way we live them, maybe it is because we are trying to control the uncontrollable and we are probably thinking that things should be different, but things They won’t turn out the way we want them to, and people won’t always behave in accordance with our values and principles. We have to take that into account.
The only thing we have under our control is how to manage what we feel and, for that, the first step we have to take is to identify those emotions, then think about how to manage the identified emotions in the healthiest way for our personal growth. , that is, practice emotional responsibility.
Thus, depending on the situation, we will experience one or the other emotion, but choosing what to do with them is our responsibility and the bridge to our emotional well-being, because the question is not to choose what one feels, but how to manage it.