There are days when we wake up in a bad mood, at that moment I’m sure we’ll have a lot of problems. It’s a kind of irritating hum that doesn’t leave us and leaves us stunned. The problem is, we don’t tell anyone and people approaching can be fired without even knowing what’s going on.
It is therefore essential to learn, when to stop, to face these days of “global rage”. Contrary to what we usually do, it is not good to wait for the other to change and give us a smile. It’s better to go for a moment, go somewhere where you can’t attack anyone and relax.
- Other times we wake up in a normal mood and even then we argue with everyone.
- It’s one argument after another and life becomes chaos and in these cases.
- Who is responsible?Why do we fight everyone?Is it our fault or their fault?.
We all say, “I’m not looking for conflict, do you find me?”as if it were a great magnet that draws them to us.
The same goes for relationships. If we are unable to maintain a friendship, marriage, or good relationship with peers, perhaps our responsibility. When these situations are repeated all the time, the other, circumstances or even our poor choice cannot be blamed.
At this point, we have to think about what we are doing wrong, because everything always ends the same, keep in mind that the same actions usually produce the same result, if there is something you don’t want, you have to do something. different to change the situation.
Since we are talking about clichés, we can remember a phrase that perfectly corresponds to this situation: “Can men stumble twice on the same stone?And even stick to it?. Not loving many people can be normal and understandable (we may not be friends with everyone), but if we argue with the neighbor, with our parents, with the employer, with the supermarket salesman, with the colleague, with the childhood friend and with the bus driver, we have serious problems.
The good news is that this problem can be modified and improved. We must acknowledge our mistakes; It is very common to say that we are not to blame, that the problem is each other’s, and that it is the fault of the world.
“Are you all against me? It’s a very common phrase. Aren’t you against the others? It may not be on purpose and we do not intend to harm anyone, but the truth is that with our behavior we hurt those we love (and strangers too).
Taking responsibility is the first step to stop blaming the world, karma or the universe of our problems, if you’re nervous about driving the car with your husband by your side, this is your problem, not his, if you’re arguing with your colleague because of a misunderstanding, it’s his fault he didn’t ask you at the time what he was trying to say.
We could give a thousand examples like this, but the important thing is why we fight or alienate others: our attitude!, the way you act defines you and can help or interfere with your relationships.
Why not start with an objective reflection to understand why it failed?There’s no need to “whip. ” Just understand that misused words, actions, or emotions can cause problems with others.
Perhaps it is the lack of self-esteem, the fear of accepting one’s feelings, the fear of losing control of the situation, the anger against oneself, etc. The options are as varied as the number of inhabitants of this planet.
If you know someone in that situation, or maybe you’re there yourself, think about how the other person feels when you do that, keep in mind that this anger against the world increases the chance that he’ll treat you the same way, and that together you and your worldview create a vicious circle that’s not good for you or those around you.