Few people think that they are jealous, although many feel jealous, the absence of this recognition occurs because this attribute is socially undesirable, so in the collective unconscious there seems to be an obvious idea: jealousy brings nothing good to anyone, nor to the person who feels it, nor to the person who motivates them.
On the other hand, jealousy is inevitably linked to the concept of property, not in vain the fear of losing something only arises when there is possession or hope of such possession, but what if we stopped here?sounds?we would have a very limited view of that feeling and its motivating power.
- In the collective unconscious there seems to be an obvious idea: jealousy brings nothing good to anyone.
- Nor to those who feel them.
- Or to those who motivate them.
Although jealousy is not only fed by mediocre people, it turns out that most people who grow them think so, this perception leads them to ask questions with which they stab each other all the time, “Why are you with me, if not?I deserve someone so good, “How long will it take to pass this hallucination called love?”
Questions that hide a very bitter feeling of insignificance for those who make them, because in them lies a resistance to abandonment, to real love. This resistance is a consequence of doubts: “What will I enter into in a relationship that will soon end??”
With this, we do not intend to justify the jealous, but to propose that it is not an isolated aspect of his personality, but something that relates to the other pieces of the puzzle that make up his personality. Jealousy or a jealous person in isolation is analyzing the wound by omitting the causes that caused or keep it open.
On the other hand, we also want to highlight one thing to help you: a jealous person is having a really bad time. You’re very afraid, it’s not a so-called fear, even if the rest of the people think it’s unfounded. Even rationally, the jealous can have moments of lucidity and understand that his feelings and behavior are absurd. Something that won’ will make you feel better, and that will even increase your sense of insignificance.
In this way, the feedback circuit closes and causes the ascent
Sometimes we feel like we like to have a hard time. We trust our partner, but if we see your lost phone in the house and the person is gone, there may be the temptation to come and look. It’s not a suspicion, but a test, as we do when we leave the house and come back to see if the lights are on.
Then we see a message that says “a hug,” “all the best. “The words of someone we don’t know, a kiss? (But?A kiss, how?A warm thank you, and questions and pain begin. We were at a difficult crossroads. On the one hand, we know we can’t admit the fact that we’re looking at his phone.
“Love, ” did I follow your phone to prove that I have no reason to be jealous?
Anybody say that?
Yes, people who feel entitled to do so and who feel that right recognized by the other, it is very common, for example, for the infidel to accept these behaviors from the other after a betrayal, understands that this is a way of giving him the security that this will not happen again, and he gives this espionage as a price to continue the relationship , that is, in the middle, they place a bomb that will eventually explode.
Our spy, who thinks that “more than dying than confessing,” will have to start swallowing some doubts. You doubt that they have nothing to do with kisses or hugs, with what you’ve seen, but with what you think may exist behind it. From now on, you’re not going to go on the phone to check anymore, but to confirm the worst fears, didn’t I tell you we like to suffer?
By this we mean that a jealous person will always find reasons to be jealous, because we all have children in our lives from which a fighting mind can invent a story full of clandestine lovers. Stories that most of the time the person who believes does not have. Notice he swallows poison. So tragically, and also represented in some theatrical comedies, it’s easy for you to end up caught up in your own suspicions.
On the other hand, the line between founded and unfounded jealousy is beautiful, no one wants to be the last to know that your partner has one?Expensive? Or a “dear” because a whole life project can be at stake. , on paper, it can be very easy to say that if the relationship is going to end, it will end in the same way, whether or not there is a third person, but, as we said at the beginning, it is an excessive intellectualization. a feeling that is more complex and has a more powerful force.
So, if anyone expected an easy conclusion for this article, I’m afraid you’re disappointed. The jealousy and behaviors of those who were born and who maintain them are a personal decision, but it is good that everyone knows where they put their thoughts and emotions. when they engage in certain behaviors. In any case, think that jealousy has more to do with what we imagine than with the information we actually have.