Regain your power with your head up, never give in to what you don’t like or don’t want, you have a voice to speak, a look that refuses to see life in fear and a presence that requires more space Rise, because the actual size is not measured in centimeters, it is seen in courage, respect and personal determination.
Montesquieu said that to stop the abuser of his power, another power must stop him, in a way it is as if we are always subject to a set of forces where we control ourselves, measure, submit and challenge ourselves. to live in harmony, we are a society that has always loved hierarchies and the resulting discrimination.
“I don’t want women to have power over men, but over themselves. “Mary Wollstonecraft?
Is that so true that if we take a moment to discuss the word?Power? From a psychological point of view, we will find several studies in which the same terms are always used: authority, alienation, threat, fear, interdependence and, above all, submission of “B”. “A”.
This concept has recently undergone interesting and inspiring changes. Today, psychology provides us with the realm of “personal power”, in which, far from having sets of forces, differences or threats from one group over another, something different was born.
We are talking about the opportunity to gather internal forces, to “empower” ourselves to achieve our goals and create a more egalitarian society. To do this, we must first work on our personal power, our self-confidence, our potential and it also awakens self-love, which sees no borders on its horizon.
Is it time to understand the word?Power ?, otherwise we must be able to see it as an awakening, as an awareness of what we deserve, of what we can do for ourselves and, above all, for society itself. There is a very interesting book on the same subject by anthropologist William Ury, entitled “The Positive Power of a NO”, which invites you to think in depth.
In most contexts where there is a marked difference in power, where some exercise their influence and others are subordinated by social, economic or gender differences, there is a fact that is almost always repeated. Whoever is at the top of the pyramid of influence is used to always getting what they want. Life, the people around you, so to speak, did he always say so?Yes, to any project, at any whim, high goal or childish longing.
As Dr. William Ury explains, these types of people exert their influence through the empire of fear, so if you want to regain your power, you have to do something as simple as saying no, when you believe, need or consider. Limits must be imposed on those who are accustomed to seeing their personal horizons free of obstacles.
We have to look at another aspect. It is not enough for a person to have the courage to say “no”. There is no change with a solitary voice and a brave person who dares to take the step in isolation. Were the great movements born from the union of several?Don’t get up in the same voice.
That’s what we see with the #MeToo movement, there were many women who dared to take the plunge at the time, but no one wanted to hear them, let alone believe them, today society is more receptive and they have come together to put aside fear and make visible a reality where abuse of power has reached unacceptable limits.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, regardless of your age and any situation you’re in, remember: you have power in you and you can make good use of it, this inner impulse should allow you to find your place in the world. , the place you want, not the place others want. This force must be creative, it must be a flame capable of guiding you in times of darkness and, on the other hand, powerful enough to comfort and guide others.
To achieve this, we can work on the following aspects
Finally, is it essential that in your daily life you invest time and effort in working on your personal growth, to enable your self-esteem, your self-confidence, your self-confidence?Only then will you refuse to bow your head, only then will you be part of this movement based on respect, equality and the ideal of achieving a more dignified society for all.
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