It would be great to go to the pharmacy and buy resilience pills, one a day would be enough to inject us with the energy to learn to react to adversity, or simply to the daily stress that work and even life, always full of kindness. and bad things, bring us.
Resilience has become important in recent years in the social sciences and mental health, the reality is that it is a concept invented by physics, and it tells us about the power of certain materials to recover their original state in certain circumstances that can distort and even fragment them.
- How to apply this property in the human and psychological field?Can we return to our original state despite losses.
- Betrayals or failures?.
Not really. We will never return to this state, at a time when we were immune to everything and still did not know the risks of life, however, resilience can teach us not only to learn from these effects, but also to face and overcome them. rejection, humiliation or any negative situation, which we have certainly all had to face.
You certainly know a case. Children who grew up in disadvantaged family settings or families with serious personal problems (abuse, alcoholism, poverty).
Not everyone who has had to go through these situations in childhood has reached maturity, showing the psychological effects of such a dark past, there are those who have overcome adversity to develop not only a sense of survival, but also hope, adaptability and self-esteem. .
How is that possible?
We must learn to separate contexts from our own inner reality. Don’t you deserve a future of despair and suffering?Why not learn to be happy by abandoning the past?After living in the dark, we already know the shadows to find strength and face them.
People who have successfully developed their resilience are emotionally competent, but what does that mean?This means that they have the autonomy to decide what is good and bad for them, this means they have good self-esteem and know what they want.
Resilient people know what it’s like to go through a traumatic or complex event, where you have to be strong to survive, let the days go by and not fear the future, know that we all have enough capacity to face the adversities and overcome them. Don’t you deserve it?
How do I get this way to fortified? First, we have to be clear about one thing: resilience is common, not extraordinary. In other words, we can all develop it, doesn’t being resilient mean being?Immunized? Emotional pain must be assumed and understood.
We have to be realistic about what is happening to us, have a positive vision of ourselves, know how to manage your emotions, accept the pain, but set goals and targets for the next day, never lose hope. Change is part of our lives and we have to accept it, because it will make us grow as people and teach us to be stronger.