“Talking is a necessity, listening is an art?
Listening is a fundamental process for effective communication.
- Listening and listening are two different actions.
- Throughout the day we hear a lot.
- But we hear very little.
- When we hear we do not pay attention.
- We simply capture the succession of sounds that occur around us.
- Where while when we hear our attention it is directed to a certain sound or message.
- That is.
- There is an intention; Right now.
- All our senses are focused on what we get.
- So people who know how to listen to others accompany them on their journey of life.
An Eastern proverb says: “No one places more emphasis on his humility and rudeness than he who starts talking before his interlocutor finishes. “
What happens is that sometimes when we talk to someone else, we both have difficulty listening and, on many occasions, we just listen while we figure out what we’re going to say as soon as the other person is done, rather than paying attention to who we’re telling. In this way, dialogue is blocked with verbal pauses, because if everyone wants to speak at the same time and the reasons for both are not heard, there is no dialogue; there are only overlapping monologues.
Listening is a difficult attitude because it requires self-control and involves attention, understanding and effort to capture each other’s message, that is, to turn our attention to each other, entering their scope of interest and their point of reference.
Dialogue requires a quiet attitude, in which we listen carefully. Writer and announcer J. Krishnamurti said “listening is an act of silence. “Until we close our internal dialogue and pay attention to our interlocutor, we will not learn to listen. the attitude of attentive listening means that the response we give to our interlocutor creates strength. If we don’t open our ears to listen completely, it will be difficult to tell the other something valid.
If we really hear it, the speaker will feel that he values it, being grateful and thereby creating in him a climate of respect, esteem and trust.
Listening is a skill that requires openness, transparency and willingness to understand, the perfect balance between listening and knowing how to speak produces dialogue.
We must exercise the ability to listen!
It is a healthy, rewarding and supportive exercise, especially in a society where there are many people who need to be heard.
It is only when we can hear the other person who opened the door for that person to communicate with us.
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