Sometimes, we do not know how to say no and we have come to yield to certain demands, to refuse is very difficult, because in doing so, we feel selfish and are afraid that people will stop loving us, criticize us and leave us. But sometimes it is necessary to know how to say no to earn the respect of oneself and those around us.
It is important to understand that the ability to say is not strictly related to self-esteem, so people who have low self-esteem and low self-confidence tend to feel nervous and accept all requests made to them.
- It may be for the authoritarian parents the person had.
- Or for the way he was educated.
- Based on obedience and courtesy.
- Thus.
- Your self-esteem may depend on the things you do for others; it is a vicious circle in which the people around you expect your desires to always be fulfilled.
Being unable to say can’t make you feel stressed, irritable, and without energy, so you should evaluate the situation twice before accepting it.
? Use simple answers firmly and directly. Remember, you don’t ask permission to say no, don’t apologize and give your reasons for not accepting.
? Think about your free time and then you can say no with more confidence.
? Don’t compromise if you can’t do it. Do only what you are in line with the demand or what you feel able to do; may suggest other alternatives, but under no circumstances participate, if you really can’t.
? Always remember that denial is independent of rejection, if you reject an application does not mean that you reject the person who made the request, the law exists for both those who say no and those who ask for favors.
? Don’t feel guilty about saying no to your children, because they have to listen to this answer from time to time so that they develop a sense of self-control and can set limits.
? Be honest with yourself about what you really want
Keep in mind that the expression of your own desires must come first, if you realize everyone’s desire, you will leave a door open for people to take advantage of you, even if sometimes it is necessary to stop making certain concessions and accept that there are. there’s no harm in that.