Everything we do has a dual purpose: to live it for better or worse, until we learn from that experience, so learning can always be considered a gift, although often our teacher must be pain.
We always learn from what marks us, surprises us or attracts our attention enough to steal our time, if not, it would soon be forgotten without ending the joyful memories or lessons of the hardest moments.
- Pain often comes with the same force as the moments leading up to the arrival of happiness; and besides.
- This happiness is usually caused by this.
- Although it now hurts.
- So does the pain come after joy.
- With stories ending.
- Lives separating.
- Diseases that imprison?.
“In pain there is as much wisdom as in pleasure: both are the two great conservative forces of the species. “
-F. W. Nietzsche-
As we have said, pain is a teacher because it is always the certainty that there was something valid behind him: it is the anteroom of new joys where we analyze, understand and take care of more than we have.
Learning is always a gift even if we do it from pain that seems endless and unbearable, it is in the sense that it helps us to be better people and makes us realize that after feeling above the goals, we have to go down again. to look for new ones.
In addition to the above, learning from pain means understanding that there is a big difference between the involuntary feeling that something hurts us and the permission to let that feeling extend over time into suffering.
“Then a wound heals: it begins to close on itself, to protect what hurts so much and, once closed, you no longer see what is underneath, which caused the pain.
-Amy Tan-
In other words, it is rightly said that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Pain is useful because it helps us to face new realities and be stronger; However, suffering is useless: it is beneficial to let go, heal our emotions and continue.
Setting the limits of pain is something to be done: defining the point at which it is no longer inevitable that we can look to the future. Why is this happening to me? You’ve had your own time, it’s time to forget the possible answers and learn that things are just happening.
The point is that the pain can sometimes be so great that learning from it implies a huge change within us: the blows indicate individual existence and remind us that there can be a before and after.
Before we arrived, it was not even thought about, but when it ended up being part of us, the damage is there, in the form of experience and tools to face new adventures: because life is an adventure that requires great achievements. One of the greatest achievements will be to understand pain and learn from it.
Certainly pain is master because through it we see the magnitude of a before and the importance of an after: one emerges as someone who disorients himself by entering a cloud of gas where nothing is seen, and when he sees the light he felt alive again.
“And when the sandstorm has passed, you will not understand how you managed to get through it alive. Isn’t the person coming out of the storm the same person who came in?
-Murakami-
That’s how we feel when we learn from pain, and after that, we perceive everything we were and didn’t know, we looked at what was there and didn’t see it, and we understand that pain teaches us to look back just to gain moment.