Many adults are unable to be with themselves, loneliness generates so much discomfort that they constantly seek the company of another person without valuing whether this relationship is of quality or not, we need to understand that we will stay with us all our lives, so it is important that we have this very clear message: “Learning to be with oneself is the key to well-being”.
The fact that we are alone causes us discomfort because we are not used to it, we live immersed in external noises, focused on others and disconnected from our own being, when others leave, silence is as disturbing as that inner voice that we do not have. heard in years.
- The inability to appreciate your presence not only prevents you from knowing the wonderful human being that you are.
- It can also lead you to establish harmful dependency relationships based on both love and the fear that someone will leave you and leave you alone with you.
When he enjoys his business, he’s free. Its fullness comes from those who will never leave it; and so relationships become an election, not a necessity. At that point, you put your position to choose the person you really want to share your time with and feel free to end links that don’t bring you anything positive.
It is important to note that the search for social contacts and the building of relationships are totally healthy and natural, we are social beings and we need interactions with other people to stay physically and emotionally healthy.
However, you spend most of your time with yourself, so why not stop running and get to know each other?You’ll be surprised what you find out.
As we mentioned above, if you find it uncomfortable to be with yourself is because you are not used to it, you have not yet given yourself the opportunity to know yourself, because you are always surrounded by other people, therefore, it is important that you make a conscious effort to spend more time with yourself. Try to overcome the initial discomfort and, little by little, you will get used to its presence.
Just start not forcing encounters with others to avoid loneliness, when it’s natural, don’t run away, accept it and start living what it’s like to be with yourself.
Emotional dependence often leads us to be too dependent on the other person. We do our best to meet your needs and expectations and respond to them instantly. We put all our energy and time into your well-being and, as a result, forget about ourselves.
So start by getting back all that time and mental energy you devote to someone from outside and focus on yourself. Start wondering how you feel at all times, what you need, what you want, what you want. Make it your priority and take care, yourself first.
You may feel at first that it is selfish or unnatural, but nothing further from the truth. Your greatest responsibility is to yourself. You can’t love, care for, and care for someone else unless you love, worry, and take care of yourself first.
Finally, remember the importance of cultivating a relationship with yourself. When you love someone, you listen to them, you say words of love and encouragement, and you spend time. You have to do the same with yourself.
Find time each week to have ‘love encounters’, moments alone when the only goal is to have fun. Can you take a relaxing bath, watch your favorite movie, make a new recipe?The goal is to spend time with you and have fun.
At first, you may discover parts of yourself that you don’t like very much. He may still have wounds from the past, that he’s afraid, that he’s angry. You may feel upset. Keep in mind that you’ve probably hidden these feelings for years with the continued presence of other people, and now it’s finally giving them some light.
Instead of going back to the beginning, dare to be by your side. Observe your shady areas and work on them if necessary. When you learn to be with yourself unconditionally, when you become your best friend and ally, life will become easier and you will no longer feel alone.