When a couple decides to live together, this decision is made based on existing love and any positive expectations generated around that change, however, the difficulties associated with this resolution are often not taken into account.
We must learn to give up our great and small ways of being able to share our space and time, freely, with someone else.
- Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to doing things.
- And we’re not talking about great things.
- We’re talking about little things.
- About big things.
- In general.
- We end up coming to an agreement.
Problems often occur in the most insignificant things, which we generally do not realize, because they are not so important, due to their reduced importance, we are not concerned about any agreement on how to solve them, however, while they may annoy one person, the other may mock it. This builds up and irritates us gradually, until we finally set off.
There is no agreement on these things; Aren’t they discussed and, perhaps that’s why, they cause so much trouble between new couples and those who aren’t that young yet?
We defend dialogue as one of the best tools to learn how to live together, it would be very interesting if we said with affection what bothers us before they feel attacked by the situation, if we explain what we want and if we could hear what the other thinks and proposes; only then can we come to an agreement. We think that many times the other person does things that bother us because they don’t care. If we can explain what our needs are? We repeat it fondly, I’m sure we’ll find a good solution for both of us.
To live together, we must accept this invasion of our intimacy, of our space; you have to learn how to create a new space, a shared space.
Let’s share our wishes, our project for the future. It is a fact that love can do everything and we consider it a kind of “universal glue”? Because of its ability to unite what is broken, but let us be aware that breaks, no matter how small, leave their mark. To avoid injuries, because life will put us in more difficult situations over time, if we handle them, we will be better prepared to face other setbacks.
Sitting, talking, listening, planning and dealing with everything with love will make life much easier.