A difficult childhood is by no means a starting point for life.
A child is completely dependent on the adults around him and expects to be protected and helped grow, but sometimes these adults do the exact opposite.
At first, you’re an innocent victim of other people’s mistakes, paying what you wouldn’t have to pay for.
Even if you still carry the marks of these abuses and deficiencies on your shoulders, when you become an adult, you can refuse to remain a victim.
If you approach the situation with your weight and maturity, you have the opportunity to feel realized and happy.
Your wounds can heal
painful past can change
in a force to be better
In the first part of this article we talked about one of the tasks to overcome a miserable childhood: to re-develop its history, now let’s see what other tasks you could do.
Lifting your finger and sharing guilt can give you a fabulous sense of pleasure, puts you above others and frees you from all responsibility, yet in the long run, only that circle of discomfort of a difficult childhood remains.
Forget it once and for all: no one will fully realize what caused it
Blaming others doesn’t change anything. It simply gives a momentary satisfaction, which is useless.
If you want to overcome the negative signs of a difficult childhood, give up once and for all to blame others, they have their own battles and you can’t be the vigilante to get everything in order, this only happens in movies.
Traumatic childhood experiences allow an accumulation of anger to spread to different areas of life. May become grumpy and explosive over nonsense, or vice versa, unable to express aggressive feelings.
In fact, learning to kick ass isn’t as easy as some people assume, but it’s a necessary ability to show the limit of abusive behavior.
If you react bravely when you’re abused, defending yourself like a beast, you’ll probably momentarily stop each other’s aggression, but you’ll also establish a sequence of conflicts and new episodes of abuse.
If you are paralyzed by abuse and do not know how to respond, or are afraid to do so, a successive flow of violence will also be generated.
Defending effectively means preventing
let the other one decide how you should behave
Keeping control of your emotions will win any battle and teach a lesson to anyone who wants to abuse you. All research indicates that those who know how to channel their anger have great success in life.
Strange as it may seem, doing tasks you don’t like, of your own free will, will help you far overcome the traumas of your childhood.
When he decides to do it, it’s like saying, “I trust you and your ability to do what you’ve decided to do. “
If others didn’t like you, you will conquer yourself, because in doing so you will not forget to applaud and congratulate yourself on the great person you are, how much you are worth, how great it is to have been able to sacrifice yourself in the name of your own esteem.
Take care of your money, don’t spend it on nonsense, save a little bit of every profit you make. Try to achieve your financial independence in a certain way.
If you leave, you’ll win it. There are millions of people in the world who didn’t think it was possible, until they tried hard and relentlessly.
If you manage to achieve this independence and you can also have some economic recession, you will also have greater control over your life.
Remember that professional help can be a very valuable support so that you can finally get out of this difficult childhood, which so many times crosses your path and keeps you in fear, indecision, in a bad mood.
You can.
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