Forgetting is a curious phenomenon. He is usually anarchic, capricious and almost always faithful to the review, as we well learned in our student stage. It is also true to the memories we keep in our memory with emotion. There are memories and lessons we forget over time. It may be the memory of an era, the first time we were taken to the circus, or several times, those stories that told us with love and patience before we fell asleep, because there is nothing that attracts dreams more beautiful than a good story.
Time passes and our grandparents look with concern, not without joy, at our threat to knock on the top of the door, they see us as small, but at the same time they see us as giants, so they look everywhere. house for this pencil to paint on the wall to show that today we are a little bigger than yesterday.
- On the way to heaven we learn that patience tends to have more reward than impulse.
- This life can be very beautiful.
- But it also has surprises in every corner.
- It looks like the sky is clouding.
- It rains and the sun rises again We appreciate how much nature has to do with cycles and that many of the processes we go through are also.
- We discover that kings do not exist.
- That they are fathers.
- And that parents fail and are wrong.
- But rarely will we find something as perfect as the way they love us.
But not only did we learn, but we also started forgetting important things, so if you want, let’s look in this chest of oblivion and see what we find!
I think the kids are excellent negotiators. For them denial is the principle of negotiation, they are stubborn, tenacious and believe in their possibilities, and they also know that they have many weapons. The first is to ask what they want at the right time: when parents are happy and more flexible, when parents are tired and less resilient, or when parents face an important issue and their priority is to end the negotiation.
The second is to insist. You said no So I’m going to put on the cutest face of a good boy you’ve ever seen. Do you always say no? You certainly haven’t seen the face I saw. Look! Always the same, isn’t it? So it’s time to make an offer, if you give it to me now I promise I’ll be good all day, nothing?Then you see, I’ll stay here in the middle of the street until we approach this issue with the seriousness it deserves.
Well, you’re starting to get nervous. You don’t like this situation, well, you know I don’t like not having what I want either, if you try to take me, I’ll resist using strategies you won’t use, like throwing myself to the ground. You’re already very nervous because everyone’s looking at us, okay, okay, if you’re going to threaten not to go out into the park this afternoon, I get up, but first listen, now you’re not going to give in. I want what I want, but then you promise me you will, won’t you?With that beautiful boy face, of course.
Adults tend to lose this natural tendency to insist, especially when we receive a negative response from other people, not reality, sometimes fear and sometimes comfort make us conform to the answer we already have, sending desire to the drawer of oblivion.
As we grow up, we form an image of ourselves. We don’t know for sure how others see us, but we can come to intuition. On the other hand, there are certain attributes that we wouldn’t want to include in this image that we projected Liar?Proud?Ignoring, of course not!At least no more ignorant than the others.
The truth is that, while at the present moment we live the attitude seems to multiply this factor of knowledge and social support, there was a not too distant past in which the amount of knowledge was what mattered most, for example, for a company in time to hire us, so seeming ignorant was not a good idea.
What do children do? They ask, they ask, they ask. If the subject is delicate, interesting or trivial, they want to know how, why, what, where it comes from and what consequences it will have, they assume, like us basically, that they don’t know much, but unlike us. , do not understand how asking can distort your image. For them, before the apparition, there is a fascination with knowledge. A fascination that is often part of the lessons one forgets over time.
It’s nine o’clock. I’m about to arrive and my legs are shaking a little bit, how are you?They’ll love me I should have worn less clothes. Breathe. One, two, three?
The door opens and my girlfriend’s mother opens the door, smiles at us, we smile back. She invites us and I try not to stumble upon the carpet, some courtesy questions and before I know it, after going through one or the other question, I find myself in front of a dish that I don’t like. I hate him. But who will say no when it is the “specialty of the house”?She’s a very good cook. I close my eyes and like.
Second visit, we repeat the situation. This time, the dish is twice as big and so, there are many situations in life where it is very difficult not to seem rude for fear of offending.
A child can hardly withstand a situation he doesn’t like at all, he hardly re-reads what he thinks to the drawer of oblivion. Would this be expressed by this child’s natural evolution into adulthood, but with greater self-control?possible thanks to the evolution of the frontal cortex and the assimilation of certain social norms, i. e. taking care not to hurt anyone.
If something characterizes childhood is the fact that it is the age of discoveries, the first time we throw an object to the ground and observe what happens next, the first time we walk alone or the first time we sleep in a friend’s house without the supervision of our parents.
These early times not only provide the thrill of experiencing them, but also fuel the imagination by fantasizing before they happen. We rarely see a child miss the chance to try because he’s tired. Your curiosity is much more powerful than the comfort of staying. in what you already know it can be. Moreover, it is true that they are afraid of change, but it is also true that they live with passion and that in rare cases something worse happens.
In this sense, we also forget that for the better today is better today than tomorrow, it is an idea that we usually remember when the awareness of the finestitude of life hits us in the face, we see it in people who are about to die. : we see how they become very children in this regard, they recover this urgency not only through obligations, but also through dreams.
In addition, we can say that children are good at talking openly about what they admire about others, they have no problem recognizing that they are unable to do something or admit that someone is doing better than them, this, of course, when anticipating their needs. growth and saying that in the future they will also improve their performance. Finally, it can be said that most children have inexhaustible faith in their possibilities. They find no reason to stop thinking that they can become the ones they admire or to give up that they want.