We love blindly, we love with all the senses and with what some call ‘soul’.
However, blind love does not guarantee that a relationship will blossom until we have gray grays and time will bring us the calm that many happy couples achieve, without seeing the years in their wrinkles.
But these are days lived in harmony and happiness
So far no one has the magic formula that guarantees happiness in the relationship, while people continue to take risks and get caught up in the complex path of emotional relationships.
You’ll agree with us that one of the hardest times in the relationship is goodbye. Throughout your life, have you tasted the bitter taste of “abandonment”?And “being abandoned. “
Come on, let’s look into our eyes and say goodbye. I need to explain why I’m leaving and clarify that sometimes love is not the answer to any emptiness or the cure of all evils. I say good-bye and look you in the eye, because that’s how people who once loved each other and deserve our respect should say goodbye.
Cutting ties always causes us pain in some way, how did it end?And how did you end the last relationship?
Did you leave without saying anything?
It is neither appropriate nor emotionally healthy to say goodbye in this way, you must look yourself in the eye, open your heart and speak sincerely.
We know that it is not easy to say goodbye to someone with whom we share emotions, dreams, feelings and projects, how can we say that we no longer love her and that we are not happy with her ?, and what second attempt will cause the most suffering?
It’s not easy, but it has to be done. The farewell is like a chest full of mixed feelings, but with a clear need: let go, close this step and move on.
You should never use the famous phrase “You have to separate, but the problem is not you, it’s me. “Behind these words are several aspects:
? Avoid hurting your partner, who you actually stop loving and don’t want to hurt him by telling him the truth, so we have ‘it’s not you, it’s me’.
? We chose to take the blame. By designing this fake version and focusing on the problem ourselves, we are victims and it is easier to move on, avoid telling the truth and act immaturely, because our partner will never understand what really happened.
To break the bond and close this step honestly and maturely, we cannot use pious lies. Truth hurts, but we must face it; doubts hold false hope.
1- In the first place, we must be convinced that the separation is final and that this is the best solution.
2- It is possible that your partner has already imagined some things, however, some people prefer to “close their eyes” than face reality, so we have to take the first step and do their best for both of us.
All love based on a lie
ends up falling into the abyss of slow misfortune.
3- Think about what you’re going to say. You may want to prepare by speaking aloud. When you hear your own words, you’ll vent your emotions and then have more emotional control to deal with this difficult time.
4- Think about the arguments you can use to justify yourself or defend yourself.
5- View the farewell, the game. It’s painful, but at the same time it’s liberation, something you approach with maturity.
Leaving someone can cause a lot of suffering, but when you’re abandoned, another kind of pain can occur that can be very destructive: do we lose self-esteem, self-confidence?
Don’t let that happen; don’t become a victim. What’s the best remedy?Time helps us regain the enthusiasm and joy of living.
For example, being abandoned because of the existence of a third person, or when our partner has ceased to love us, is a difficult situation to deal with and we will need a lot of courage and determination.
Whatever the reason for the breakup, we all deserve to be investigated and explained why before we say goodbye.
? Not knowing why it generates great anxiety and false hope
? This wastes precious time, which we must use to recover from the loss and choose a new way forward.
? Terminations that occur through third parties, by phone calls or at night to find the empty house, are a difficult cycle to understand and overcome.
Every farewell needs a face-to-face farewell. Look yourself in the eye, without lies or excuses to finish a cycle.
Be brave and demand courage and emotional maturity from your partner. Life consists of closed doors, complementing cycles and new beginnings. All this must be done with integrity and inner wisdom.