Goodness is transmitted through comforting caress, the gesture it educates and the example that guides, if we plant seeds of nobility, affection and empathy in our children, we will give the world stronger adults, more dignified and courageous people, able to build. your own way.
The truth is that while emotional intelligence is fashionable, people continue to prioritize education and work to improve children’s performance in more traditional school matters, something that affects, for example, American law?No Child Left Behind? (that no child is left behind), which encourages students and families to improve their academic record so as not to lose financial support.
- This law has led to the development of several books focused on a very simple idea: to develop the maximum memorization capacity of children.
- The studies themselves are scientificly interesting because they study the different models that the brain uses to build.
- Coding data and creating new memories.
Now, what happens with this decree, approved at the time by President George W. Bush, it’s just that teachers feel pressured and students frustrated, it’s as if our political and social context is on the one hand, while neuroscience, with the results. of all the studies in this context, shouted that this would not be the case.
A child’s brain needs a more comprehensive and complex education than the current one, which focuses and stimulates the practice of memory strategies. Attention to the Memory that goes to the detriment of the “Foundation”. It builds knowledge, awakens curiosity and forms the basis of a strong, mature and cheerful personality.
Let’s start by clarifying a very important point. When a baby is born, he is unable to regulate his emotions and there is no area in his brain where the concept of goodness is genetically installed, what exists is an innate and natural need to connect with the environment that surrounds him, first with his parents to survive, and then with his companions, to begin his first social relationships.
We need to understand that the emotional world of children follows a specific evolutionary sequence where adults should be their guides, mediators and even managers. Neurological reorganization of a child’s brain is very complex, so chronological age does not always play a specific function, skill or achievement, so you have to be patient to learn to respect the physical, psychomotor and emotional development of each child
In addition, there are a number of factors that will determine the quality of this integral development in our children, when we talk about teaching goodness we not only talk about teaching values, we also talk about how this near universe, looks and recognition) certainly establishes a connection capable of achieving better neural development.
A child can make kind contact from an early age, sees him through his mother’s voice and his father’s arms, notices kindness when he learns to speak and is heard, when guided by example, when he regulates his emotions and teaches him to value. respect them and respect themselves.
Kindness is more than a value, it is an exceptional learning channel
We said at first that the curriculum line of many schools ends up prioritizing academic performance in classical subjects over emotional intelligence, well, it’s clear that none of us will be able to change what society demands of us, so it’s worth it. emotionally educate our children to be prepared for these demands, so it’s about guiding themselves inside the house, being good emotional managers since our children are in the crib and gradually taking their first steps.
Then we’ll give you some keys that will allow you to do that.
Something very real and the book How do you speak so that children listen and how can you hear children speak? Explains very well is that we are all excellent parents, until we are parents, that is, before we have children, we idealize creation and we have a very clear idea of what we would do and what we would not do. Later, when the children arrive, real life welcomes us.
Finally, we must not forget that goodness is one of the qualities that best reflects the human essence. Teaching kindness is teaching courtesy, respecting others, loving nature, not least loving oneself.
We will guide the children on this path that, day after day, will certainly help them to have a fuller life.