“I am me.
You are you.
I’m not from this world to meet your expectations
You are not in this world to meet mine.
You are you.
I am me
If at any time or at any time we meet
It’s going to be amazing.
Otherwise, there is nothing to do.
Stop giving me love
By trying to please you, I betray myself.
I stop giving you love
When I insist that you’re the way I want to be
Instead of accepting yourself for who you really are.
Is it you and I’m me?.
These words were written by Fritz Perls, a great psychoanalytic neuropsychiatist who, together with his wife Lore Posner, tried to explain to us in a simple way how we created our world and together they tried to make us understand that to please others we have to become our own torturers and that assessing our own feelings as true and important is the first step in understanding and moving forward.
The truth is that the lies that hurt us the most are not the ones we tell, but the ones we live in. There are times in our lives when we can fall into the trap of living in a false reality, which sometimes even we can come to believe.
To live locked in the cage that we have created is to believe in some values and promulgate others, to be strong but not to be, to feel fear and conceal it, to show interest even without having it, and a multitude of possibilities.
We can reflect our lack of authenticity on many occasions in our lives. It’s as simple as denying that we ate the last piece of chocolate in the closet or that we weren’t the first to find the broken glass.
In fact, it is intimately related to the way our parents and society have educated us since we were little; since our birth, we have been indoctrinated to suppress our feelings and emotions, to avoid expressing what is real to us and what we really feel.
We create an exterior that is nothing like the reality we live within, many times our ideals are not what we seek, and our lifelong ideas, fears and goals do not correspond to what we actually manifest.
All this negatively affects our vital development and only encourages us to wear a mask that we wear since childhood, usually our parents and teachers taught us to reject certain emotions such as anger, fear or even pain, which led us to hide. Them.
That is why we believe that we can become indifferent to these emotions, when in reality it is not, fear, pain or anger are always present and represent a large part of our life experience, however, we tend to be strong and emotionally repress the frustration and pain.
Another contradiction that we have absorbed like sponges since we were little is whether it is good to lie or not, the elders always lied while talking so as not to lie, little by little we became aware of this and we realized that we had to accept the Lies and sometimes also we collaborate with them, so we take this option as something natural, although we feel very bad and we only get a small advantage at a very opportune moment, when we manage to achieve something.
Keeping our self-esteem very high and showing how we are will not really please everyone, but in this way we will build real, pure, open, honest and independent relationships.
Accepting and committing to who we really are will make us not afraid of what we want and who we are, of talking to whoever wants to listen to us, but it will also arouse the envy of those who do not. dared to unify their inner truth with the outside truth.
It is true that challenges are not for everyone, but we can all live them and even overcome them; It’s up to us to be authentic and maintain good self-esteem will help you keep lying, encouraging you to be the same at all times and not to miss the love you owe yourself, self-love.