To live well-being and grow steadily, we must learn to drop situations or people that do not offer us a quality of life, usually we find it difficult not to stick to things, because the human being feels more confident than known. In the face of the loss of something we were used to, fear and uncertainty appear.
Couples who are not happy and who are always together, jobs that sour their existence, toxic friendships, a family that restricts freedom, etc. There are so many situations and people around us that aggravate our well-being and yet we insist on staying. attached to . . .
- Because life is changing and offers so many new things to attach to something that doesn’t work.
- It means conforming to a quality of life that could improve if life flows naturally.
How many everyday situations have we seen in which people get involved in something that doesn’t make them happy?The friend who tells us that the child did not respond to his messages, and still insists on frustration, following in his footsteps, trying to convince, like, etc . . . to do this kind of thing is to fall into stagnation, because if you continue to fight for something that is not worth it, you miss the opportunity for new things to come that can bring happiness.
Letting go is accepting every situation as it is. It means not forcing things and letting everything flow naturally. If, for example, we write to someone who cares about us and we don’t get an answer, it’s better to accept and move on, open up to new experiences, and meet new people.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t fight for things, but the relationship world works like a board game where we both have to roll the dice and play, if we roll the dice once and the other doesn’t roll, it doesn’t do anything. sense of continuing to play alone, because there is no interest on the other side; the rational thing is to leave the game and find someone who wants to play
In real life it is the same, to play is to show interest, if we analyze the behavior that surrounds us we can encounter several who play alone and stuck in relationships that do not go well.
Letting go is generally not an easy task. Most, when they realize that something that matters to them escapes them, they do not accept and seek answers. Why don’t you want us to talk like before? Why did you stop loving me? Why are you dodging? We need explanations, arguments, we usually push to get what we want and it is all due to lack of acceptance.
Generally, people who appreciate us and love us will continue to be with us without having to make any effort, so the belief that to have something we have to sacrifice is wrong, because unrequited sacrifice leads to frustration and stagnation. Is it worth it when everything flows naturally, in a “give and receive?”Reciprocal.
Letting go isn’t just about situations and people; We have certain ideas that we must give up to increase happiness. Often, instead of letting everything flow, we try to make things happen our way.
Weekend plans that don’t come true, believe that without a partner you can’t be happy, go back in time to repent, believe you’re not valid, avoid things out of fear, etc. ?We must let out any idea that causes a negative feelings disappear from our minds.
If we didn’t think, we would probably enjoy life more, because we would dedicate ourselves to living the moment as it is, without trying to change it. By accepting everything as it is, we would focus only on the enjoyment of the moment; we would adapt to what exists and we would not try to adapt to reality.
Nature is wise; even trees lose their leaves in the fall, making them new and vigorous. Each situation can be viewed from a positive or negative point of view.
Some may see as negative that the trees lose their leaves, because they dirty the streets, the branches are ugly naked, but others can see the same from the point of view of the positive, the streets are full of the beauty of the leaves they adorn, the branches prepare to receive new leaves and the streets are filled with magic?
We train our minds to see good at every moment and when we feel it is necessary, we renew our lives, we abandon what makes us unhappy, we abandon the attachments behind us to keep flowing.
Between the banks of pain and pleasure flows the river of life. It is only when the mind refuses to sink into life and gets stuck in the margins that it becomes a problem. Flowing means acceptance, letting come and go. (Sri Nisargadatta Majarj).
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